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This pregnancy is your first LO? Yeah I would go.

I would definitely go.

If it was crazy major surgery like a heart transplant I would stay to support my husband as he supports his parents. But if it's relatively minor, I would do what @winniebee: said and see if one of my friends could come with me.

@annem1990: tough. In a way I'd feel really jerky going, but at the same time. I know my dh and mil would want me to go too.

If your husband is ok with it then yes, I'd definitely go. Lay by the pool, go to the spa, take naps in the big bed.

But I also think that your husband might want to check with his parents how they feel. Maybe they would encourage him to go, maybe they'll want some alone time for her to recover. I assume he has a job so would he really be spending much time with her during those three days anyway?

Id still go by myself.

I would go, and I would bet like you said that my husband's parents would feel more comfortable with just him hanging around the hospital and not both of us, the same way many people feel about in laws and childbirth.

I would love to say that I would go and have a great time, but I probably would skip the trip.

If you're going to be by yourself either way, I think you should still go. And if this is a planned surgery, I think your DH should skip it and go on the trip too. I'm not sure what kind of procedure she's having, by my mom has had several - both hips and both knees replaced. I have never gone home for any of them, and really I don't think my presence would have been appreciated. As others mentioned, she could be groggy and in pain, and need assistance and it may make her uncomfortable to have her grown son see her like that.

I'd go and would still try to bring a friend. Why would they need to buy a ticket if it is all paid for already?

@annem1990: oh really? So nonrefundable and non-transferable? Not SW I guess. Jeesh.

I would go! Hopefully it won't be perceived as a jerky move and even then, hopefully your husband can explain that the trip is completely paid for and non-refundable and that way at least not all is lost.

@annem1990: changeable for a change fee, I would think.

For what its worth, I think DH should seek his parents thoughts. My mom went through this and expressed not wanting to see any of her children. She was very specific about not wanting us around during her surgery or post surgery.

Have you tried calling around and seeing if you can change the flights and trip for a fee? I'd try to do that and still have DH with me before I would go alone.

ETA I just saw your follow up. Maybe if the hotel change is cheap/free I would still hold off and go with DH.

I'd go on my own in this case, and hold out hope that DH is able to make it!