DH and I were invited to a birthday party of a close friend next weekend. I'd love to go, but they are charging $10 a person, you have to bring a side dish, and if you're not drinking beer, you have to bring your own drinks. Would you go?
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That is SO lame!!! How *close* of a friend is this?
I would NEVER ask people to pay to come to MY birthday party AND bring a side dish AND bring their own beverages?! What's your $10 for then?
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Sounds like an odd party. It's being held at someone's house and they're charging a entrance fee?
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What? That's not a party.
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That is the tackiest thing I've heard of in a long time! Have they her heard of a potluck?
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Are they providing something substantial like a roasted pig or a seafood spread? I don't really understand since $10/ person is a lot for beer and hotdogs or something...
I guess we would go if we were otherwise looking forward to it but I would put off. Plus I feel like in that situation there are less likely to be a lot of people there so maybe less fun?
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Bringing a side dish is fine, but charging $10? Nope.
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Is it at their house or at another location? Trying to figure out why the $10 cover charge? Honestly, I don't think I would go.
If it were at some nice venue and food and drink were provided then I could totally understand paying $10.
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Weird! There better be some dancing and a good dj!
Ps. I would go if its a good friend but deduct 10 bux from the gift I'd get them lol. Or not bring a gift.
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This seems odd. It reminds me of a college party, when someone buys a keg and charges for a cup! I probably wouldn't go, just because it seems like a pain.
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Lol - that's so weird. No, I wouldn't want that trend to catch on, so I wouldn't encourage it. Unless there was some big cost, like a roast pig or some entertainment, but even then, I think it's weird.
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@boiledpnut: Ahaha. I used to have a friend that would "host" parties like this...and then I caught on that SHE was providing nothing! Or like....a bag of chips, while the rest of us were bringing drinks, food, and then she would charge to do something like....rent a margarita machine or something. I stopped attending eventually.
Super tacky.
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Unless it was a really good friend I wouldn't go. Also, if it was a good friend I'd say something, like "wtf....you know people will hate you for this, right?" That is ridiculous! I agree with others...what, exactly, is the $10 going towards if your friend isn't providing food or drinks?
I'd honestly rather use that $10 for a muffin and the biggest coffee at starbucks.
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Bringing a side dish is fine but charging $10, that is crazy.
Just sounds tacky so I wouldn't go.
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They are providing bbq, but I think that's it other than the beer.
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Only if they were a very very very good friend.
I've heard of BYOB but not bring your own drinks in general. All I drink is water, would I have to bring a bottle of water with me? And I shouldn't have to pay for your party. If you can't afford to have it, don't. I don't mind bringing food, but everything else is too much and too weird.
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@artbee: yep, it specifically says to bring bottled water if that's what you drink.
I think I'll just send DH and stay home. I can get the same bbq for $5.
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I think bringing a side dish is fine, but charging to attend a birthday party is ridiculous! The only time I've been charged is when the husband rented a party bus as a surprise for his wife and we all chipped in to cover the cost, I was fine with that but if it's at a person's house I think that is ridiculous, if you can't afford to host a party, don't. Have it at a bar where people buy their own drinks/food.
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Asking for a side dish is perfectly acceptable, but a $10 cover to go to the party??? A house party? And all they have is beer, no water or drink alternatives??? Sounds like a frat party to me!
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This seems silly! I wouldn't go and I wouldn't send dh either.
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Nope. Totally wouldn't go. As PP's said, if it were a crab feast or something I'd understand, but a BBQ? If you can't afford to throw a party then don't have a party.
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No
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No. I don't understand why they expect you to cover the cost of what they are providing and then to ALSO pay to provide a side and your own drinks.
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Soooo strange. I doubt I'd go. I have friends who will on occasion rent kegs and everyone chips in to cover the cost, but it's not really 'required'. I always offer to bring a dish but hate being 'forced'. And not supplying drinks is rude imo. I likely wouldn't go.
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Only if there was a moviestar guest host that they had to "rent", like Alexander Skarsgård (Eric from TrueBlood) or something! HA.
Other than that, no way I'd go! -
That's alot of little things to contribute. I'd skip it.
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I probably wouldn't go. It seems kind of tacky to charge cover for a party at someone's house, bring a side and have to bring my own drinks if I choose not to have alcohol.
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I wouldn't go, because that isn't an invitation, it's a solicitation.
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That's not a party, it's a fundraiser. I could see charging money if she was roasting a while pig or something like that.
The only time I've paid for a party at someone else's house, we ordered a boatload of sushi grade fish and hired a chef to prepare sushi for about thirty friends. The bill for fish alone was like $600. It was awesome.
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Eh, no. Are they young and just turned 21 or something? Makes no sense otherwise.
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They have a lot of nerve calling that a party. I wouldn't go- if you can't afford to provide food & drinks for your guests then you shouldn't host anything.
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Also, if this is a good friend, I might consider showing them what hospitality means by inviting them to dinner at my house with no strings attached. Sometimes leading by example is the best way to effect change.
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Uh, no.
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I probably would - I wouldn't like it, and I would totally be rolling my eyes the whole time, but I'd still feel obligated to go if it was a friend.
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Wow, tacky! I wouldn't go.
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I'm wondering if the is the only time she's doing this. Or maybe she went to a party that did this so she thinks its a good idea or something.
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@boiledpnut: they are charging you???
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I don't think I'd go, even for a good friend.
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As PP mentioned..sounds quite college-esque. Hosts buy a keg and a bunch of BBQ and everyone pitches in (agrees because the person with the biggest place is hosting the bash).
As an adult, if you can't afford to host a party then don't. Its a little "t-word" to have your guests pay for your party.
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$10 whaaa? Hellz no.
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