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Would you have a homebirth?

  • poll:
    I had a homebirth! : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I wouldn't have a home birth : (62 votes)
    57 %
    I tried to have a home birth, I was transferred/changed my mind : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I would have a homebirth! : (24 votes)
    22 %
    Maybe... I'd consider it. : (20 votes)
    19 %
  1. Mrs. Pen

    blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts

    @Minnie_Girl: that is so awesome!! very similar to my line of thinking - I love it!!

  2. PrincessBaby

    cantaloupe / 6610 posts

    I would never take the risk of having a home birth and something going wrong during delivery....My hospital is 10 minutes away, but 10 minutes could be detrimental to my baby in an emergency situation!

    I appreciate the idea of a homebirth, but I believe in medicine and doctors and having every precaution for my baby at my fingertips. Or at my vagina- lol.

  3. MsMini

    grapefruit / 4056 posts

    Not if you paid me!

    Given my complicated pregnancy and birth, it never would have been and never in the future would be an option anyways (at least any responsible midwife wouldn't touch me with a 20 foot pole).

  4. immabeetoo

    honeydew / 7687 posts

    I pass no judgment on those who do, or want to, but it is not for me. Almost all the births in my family have had some type of complication (natural, not as a result of any medical interventions) and I wouldn't be comfortable giving birth outside of a hospital setting. With that being said, my hospital is pretty open to alternative pain management and my OB is very laidback - which makes it even easier to decide that

  5. MrsBrewer

    coconut / 8854 posts

    Nope. No way no how! My friend had a home birth and I was there with her. Ehhh, I wasn't into it. I don't get the appeal of "delivering the baby in my bed" .....beds are for sleeping personally...

    Plus with modern medicine, I want to be in a place where if anything happens I know they have all the equipment, hands, and medicine needed to help the baby and I. To me its a no brainier.

  6. Mrs. Bee

    admin / watermelon / 14210 posts

    nope. drugs sweeeeeet drugs.

  7. Grace

    cantaloupe / 6730 posts

    Not a chance. In theory, I think it's a great idea, but I'd never take the risk. Even though the chance is small there still is a chance of complications and I would never forgive myself if something happened to my child. I would use a midwife in a hospital though. I'd just want a NICU and OR and pediatricians and other doctors nearby.

  8. Mrs Checkers

    blogger / persimmon / 1220 posts

    No way! I'm too chicken. I'd pass out at the thought of it.

  9. Ree723

    grapefruit / 4819 posts

    No way. For one, there is no way I'd want to give birth without an epidural - those sweet, sweet drugs were amazing! Two, I'd want all the medical professionals/equipment etc right there in case any complications arose. And three, I'd never forgive myself if anything happened.

    I have a cousin who had a home birth; she'd had a perfectly normal pregnancy, no complications, and all looked fine. She delivered her little boy at home, he took one breath, and then stopped breathing and died. The autopsy couldn't find a cause of death and they will never know whether or not he may have survived had he been born in a hospital. Sure that doesn't happen very often, but to me, it's not a risk I'd ever be willing to take.

    That being said, midwife care is the norm here, even for hospital births, so I get the best of both worlds! If I have a baby in the States, I will be looking for midwife care, but one who delivers at hospitals.

  10. Arden

    honeydew / 7589 posts

    @Ree723: I'm so sorry about your cousin's baby.
    But I can't understand how being in a hospital would have made any difference. If they couldn't even find a cause in an autopsy, how could they have done anything in the hospital without knowing what was wrong?

  11. runsyellowlites

    coconut / 8305 posts

    Yes definitely!!! I hope next time I'm able to keep my head on better & not transfer.

    Homebirths have been found to be just as safe if not safer than hospital births with less operative & invasive deliveries. Many of the "what if" situations most worry about are almost non-existent in a homebirth because of there not being unnecessary interventions, like pitocin which greatly increases risk of pp hemorrhage. (Just one example)

    Jennifer Kamel has a great write up on "Why Homebirth?" On her site vbacfacts.com. Definitely check it out if you haven't already.

  12. Ree723

    grapefruit / 4819 posts

    @Arden: That's the big question - could the hospital have saved him? The midwife did CPR until the ambulance got there but by the time they got him to the hospital, he was pronounced dead. The question my cousin and his wife have struggled with has been would he have survived if he had been in hospital? If they could have intubated him, or given him oxygen, or something along those lines, would he have lived? It's one of those questions that we'll never know the answer to, and in all honesty, there is a very real possibility he may not have survived regardless of where he was born. It's just the not knowing that I think would get me. In regards to the autopsy, that was showing that there was nothing wrong with him physically that would have led to an inevitable death (i.e. a malformation of a vital organ or something like that), had that been the case, maybe it would have made it easier to accept, knowing that there was a fatal deformity, but as that wasn't the case, they're back to just wondering "what if".

    I don't know, I fully appreciate the concept of a home birth and I certainly give massive props to those who choose to have one, but it's just not for me.

  13. Arden

    honeydew / 7589 posts

    @Ree723: The midwife didn't have oxygen with her? That is very unusual. Every midwife I know carries oxygen.
    I'm very sorry your family had to go through that.

  14. Ree723

    grapefruit / 4819 posts

    @Arden: Thank you. I'm not entirely sure why she didn't - this was several years ago now, but I just remember that she was performing CPR until the paramedics arrived. I'm sure things have changed in recent years and more precautions are taken now to prevent situations like that from happening. I know it was a one in a million chance that this happened, but it has unfortunately forever shaped my view on the subject. Regardless, I think it's great that other people research the option and pursue it where appropriate!

    Thanks for your kind words.

  15. Honeybee

    pomelo / 5178 posts

    Nah it's not my style. Anyway my pregnancies have been complicated enough that home birth probably wouldn't have been an option for me anyway.

  16. pinkcupcake

    cantaloupe / 6751 posts

    Nah, I need drugs

  17. sorrycharlie

    hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts

    @Coco Bee: my entire (natural) labor was on the gurney in triage! I hated the triage nurse because she didn't believe me that I was in so much pain. She assumed FTM, I didn't know what I was talking about. Turns out I was in transition!! Hellish.

    That said...epidural made my life. Hospital birth all the way for me!

  18. loveisstrange

    pineapple / 12526 posts

    I would absolutely have one, even after having a somewhat complicated delivery with C.

  19. ladyfingers

    pomelo / 5331 posts

    Nope. I know that midwives are medical professionals, and all that stuff. But I feel more comfortable in a hospital. I don't know why. I also want an epidural.

  20. Alivoo01

    wonderful olive / 19353 posts

    @Coco Bee: @Arden: Sorry ladies, I definitely mean midwives aren't as knowledgeable as the staff at a hospital! Those ladies deliver hundreds of babies so that clearly says something for them being knowledgeable right? Ha!

    What I meant was should I change my mind for an epidural or need an emergency c-section, need NICU, etc, I'd be more comfortable knowing those options are RIGHT there. Most homebirth stories are about natural births and haven't heard about what happens in the case of a c-section or the baby becomes distressed during labor or post-birth. Lack of knowledge/research on my end mostly.

  21. Mrsbells

    squash / 13199 posts

    I would like a natural water birth but I would rather go to a birth center than have the baby at home.

  22. FarmWifeGina

    pear / 1571 posts

    Yep, been there, done that with Baby #1. Thanks to staying OUT of the local hospital, my uterus remained intact and I wasn't on the hunt for a VBAC-friendly care provider when we moved to another state that is not well-known for its crunchiness. Had an unmedicated hospital birth with Baby #2 because I didn't feel comfortable birthing at home, 50 miles from a hospital that could help us in the very low chance that something would go wrong. Just planning #3 now, but I've done a lot of research, talked to the local midwives, etc., and I most likely will have another home birth with my 3rd delivery.

  23. sera_87

    pomegranate / 3604 posts

    I totally would - if I could get an epidural.....so that's never going to happen. I hate hospitals.

  24. CupQuakeWalk

    coconut / 8475 posts

    Wouldnt do it at home but I'd consider a water birth with midwife in a hospital!

  25. LittleGBee

    apricot / 319 posts

    We're planning on it for this one and I'm so excited!

    After our hospital experience last time, I felt like I was fighting them at every turn for monitoring, policies, etc. I'm looking forward to being comfortable, laboring how I want, pushing how I want, trusting my body, and the experience of the midwives.

    We rent, but we're a mile away from both the hospital that we were at for DD, and a mile away from the local children's hospital, so we're in a great location should any complications arise.

  26. KissMeCait

    apricot / 280 posts

    No way. Anything can happen and I'd much rather be in the appropriate place just in case it does. The concept of home birth seems nice and all but it's totally not for me. I've read too many stories to turn me completely off to the idea.

    Besides, I'm already fully planning on gettin' the juice. Unfathomable amounts of pain when it can be avoided?? Um, no thanks.

  27. Cherrybee

    papaya / 10570 posts

    I'd love a homebirth but DH has put his foot down and we're going to hospital. Maybe next time!

  28. duckduckkristen

    clementine / 959 posts

    I wanted to the first time, but was too scared. Since everything went really well (but I hated being in the hospital) I'm looking into it for this LO.

  29. littlek

    GOLD / squash / 13576 posts

    I couldn't have a home birth for medical reasons. I'm high risk because of my heart.

  30. tysonja

    nectarine / 2217 posts

    no, i don't think so, but i that's because i hospitals, i nurses, and i epidurals. I laboured med free (not by choice) until 10 cm last time before the epi and although i suppose i know now that i 'can do it', i don't really fancy doing it again for this baby comin up!

    i do like reading stories about home births, though!

  31. Meltini

    apricot / 495 posts

    Definitely not. If anything were to go wrong, I would probably always blame myself.

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