I would prefer equally because it makes it much harder to take care of baby #2 if #1 always wants to be by your side. Charlie has preferred Mr. Bee since Olive came along, but when he gets sick, he does ask for mommy again.
Olive on the other hand will be preferring mom for much longer.
Be honest... which would you prefer?
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Equally! It is very difficult when the LO has a big mommy preference. It is much easier when mommy and daddy are kind of interchangeable.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
definitely equally. On occasion it's so sweet when LO just wants me, and only settles down once I'm holding him. But I LOVE having the ability/freedom to take a break and hand him off to DH. It makes my life a lot easier.
We've kinda gotten into a little schedule. I stay at home during the week with LO while DH works long hours (10am-10pm) Mon-wed, then 9-3 thurs. That is the start of our weekend, and DH takes him for most of the weekend, except for feedings. That way I have time to get stuff done, cleaning, cooking, errands, whatever and DH gets to make up time with LO. I love the way it works out.
apricot / 468 posts
I'm hoping for equally! I've been told by my husband that he will be hoarding our baby girl from the moment she's born lol. I told him he doesn't have the mommy boobs lol.
pomegranate / 3503 posts
equally as well. There's a lot more whining when they have a preference.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I'm hoping for equally, I want to have some time to myself without worrying that I'm upseting LO, but I still want LO to spent time with mommy!
persimmon / 1202 posts
If my husband would try to look for a job that deploys less (he's gone 7 months at a time), I'd say equally. As it is, I hope they prefer me. Most of the jobs in his company deploy less. One of the ones that didn't deploy was even in a place he'd prefer with work he'd prefer, with equal pay, and he STILL wouldn't apply. If I'm going to be a single mom for months at a time because he's too lazy to submit a job application, I want to at least have the benefit of being my kids' favorite parent.
ETA: That's a minor, grumpy sort of want. But it's there.
persimmon / 1453 posts
Equally, I hope! DH and I talk a lot about how the husband-wife relationship often gets neglected when kids come into the picture. I'd hate for us to feel that we're competing for affection with a child.
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
I would say equally, but I think she prefers DH
right now 
(Same thing happened with my dogs - I feed them, walk them and take care of them, but they LOVE my husband).
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