Would you rather be pregnant with a newborn to 1 year old baby or pregnant with a toddler?
I mean this as pregnant with number 2 while you have another baby or toddler running around.
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Um... Neither. I'd rather be pregnant with an older kid who is somewhat self-sufficient and in school. Lol
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I would rather be pregnant with a 3 year old ( does that still count as a toddler?)
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@loveisstrange: I guess I could have added that option lol. I guess in a way I am asking for myself and we plan on at least TTC or adopting soon after we have a baby. We don't want big gaps
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@Mrsbells: I would assume it does? I would count a 3yr old as a toddler.
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With a toddler, since that's what is happening!
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Toddler 2-3 years apart.
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I got pregnant with my second when my first was 7 mos. It was easier in the beginning as he was a bit more chill. Once he hit a year old, it got a lot more difficult, as he got heavy and I couldn't pick him up as much. If he had been older (say the 2.5 he is now), I wouldn't be able to pick him up at all.
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Were on the 3-5 year plan, meaning that baby #1 would be 3-5 years old by the time we get started on #2. If we decide to got for #3 i could see us having that baby closer to #2. but before #2 comes along we're hoping that financially i would be able to be a SAHM and maybe upgrade from our starter home.
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You ladies are all so practical!
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I think both have challenges but toddler is my pick! My LO was 16 months old when the baby was born!
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@loveisstrange: I'm with you! Neither. To me it would be better when LO was in kindergarten to second grade but I don't have that much time left.
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we're shooting to have a 2.5-3 year old when we have lo #2
so toddler!
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I don't think I would mind being pregnant with an infant DD, only because she's such a sweet, mellow baby. However, we are NOT getting pregnant that quickly. I imagine she'll be two before we start seriously trying again. I anticipate the crazies.
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My personal minimum gap would be 18 months apart for two reasons: I want to give my body at least 9 months to recover from pregnancy and second because breastfeeding is very important to me and I would not want to put my supply in jeapordy. (My first two are 20 months apart).
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I want my kids somewhere between 15 months and 24 months apart, so I want to be pregnant somewhere between when #1 is 6 months to 15 months.
So I'm somewhere in between.
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i was pregnant when DS was between 6 months-15 months....once he started walking and becoming more 'toddlerish' it was much more tiring! some days i had wished i was pregnant when he was older and could 'fend for himself' more...ya know as much as an older toddler can fend for themselves. but it wasn't that bad, and i'm glad they are going to be so close in age.
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@anonysquire: in that case I vote for toddler!
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Newborn to one year old. That's our plan (well, if my body decides to start cooperating anytime soon) because although I'm a SAHM right now the plan is for me to go back to work in a few years, so if I wait too long before having another I won't have that time with them where I'm at home everyday. And honestly, seeing how my almost 3 year old nephew is pushes me in that direction too - he gets quite jealous of our LO because he was the only child/grandchild for so long, and I know his mom is starting to worry about how he'll react to the baby they plan on having next year.
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Newborn to one year old, because that's our plan.
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Toddler all the way, the fact that my little guy can walk on his own saves my life!! I can't imagine first tri (or being super pregnant) with a non-walker, plus he was a holy terror as he was learning. He was everywhere, unstable, and attracted to everything dangerous. Now he's under decent voice control, so I can call him in closer rather than chasing him down.
I also wanted to be on the closer end of weaning before getting pregnant (12-18 months). I'm glad it worked out that we were weaning when I got pregnant again, nursing was soooooooo uncomfortable really fast, you couldn't have paid me to continue breastfeeding (that's saying a lot, because I loved it after about 6 months.)
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Haha I totally read this as pregnant with (i.e. - give birth to) a newborn or a toddler. Like, would you rather skip the newborn stage but you have to give birth to a two year old. Totally different question...
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Like others I would rather have an older kid (we are hoping for a 3.5-4.5 year age gap between kids) but since it wasn't an option I voted toddler. I watch a baby (11 months) right now and it is hard. His 4 year old brother is easier...and he will take it easy on me if I tell him my back is hurting, etc.
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LO will be 2.5 when Baby #2 is born, and I think it's a good gap. Less so for during-pregnancy reasons, but because at age 2.5, DS is fairly self-sufficient in a lot of ways, can be left alone (not ALONE alone, but if he's playing downstairs, I could easily run upstairs and spend 15 minutes changing a newborn or something and not worry about him at all), he can follow directions and actually be pretty helpful at times, etc.
I would not have wanted to bring home a newborn when DS was in that stage of being mobile and resistant to being contained, but needing constant observation (and unable to talk or follow directions). So I'd way rather bring home a newborn to a 2.5 year old than, say, a 15 month old. -
@Shutterbug: haha that's also an interesting question!
I say toddler, because I was so so tired in the first trimester, I couldn't deal with the motn wakeups and constantly soothing. But C is being a pill today- right now I'm thinking she doesn't need a sibling.
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I'm just now pregnant with #1 but we are hoping to have them quite close in age. I want to stay at home while they're babies but be able to go back to work when they're in school. So we're aiming to have them close together. We'll just see if life decides to cooperate with my plans!
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I'm thinking pregnant with a toddler. It's looking that way since we haven't started TTC again while LO turned 1 recently. We're working on independent play with him. If we weren't so exciting to us, it would make managing a newborn easier.
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I couldn't imagine getting pregnant again right now! 2 months pp and I still don't feel anywhere near healed not to mention that DD demands all my time, energy and emotion. I doubt I will be ready to TTC #2 until DD is at least a year old.
That said, I suspect it would be easier to be pregnant with a young baby as they'd be lighter to carry and you won't have to chase them around!
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Our girls are 21 months apart. It was pretty tough, but is really good now.
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If toddler is 2.5 and up, then yes
that's how old my first was when I was pregnant with #2. The age wasn't hard (except that DS would wake up at 5am and getting up with him while pregnant wasn't easy).Younger than 2 does seem difficult especially when I was super sick and weak for both of my last pregnancies.
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Toddler. Only because I'd hope life is a little more routine by that point. I'd say because I'd hopefully be getting more sleep, but I have friends with 3 and 4 year olds that say they get less sleep than when their kids were newborns. Either way, getting pregnant while DS is a baby is out of the question!
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We're hoping to start trying again once this one that is currently baking is a year old. Given it took us seven months to get pregnant, it means they'll be between 12 and 19 months apart, hopefully.
My friend got pregnant with her second very soon after delivering her first (her son was born six days before her daughter's first birthday) and I know she found it quite hard. I want a little time to get back in shape first! -
School age. Due to life circumstances.
But otherwise with a toddler. At least a one year old!
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I'm going to be the minority here but I'd say newborn to 1 year old! I got pregnant when E was 4 months old and it was MUCH easier to be pregnant while he was immobile, etc. Now he's almost a year and he's running around (has been walking since 9.5 months) and into everything- being pregnant feels harder now than it did in the beginning! He also took more naps when I was in my first tri (3 versus 1-2) which was really nice when I was sick and exhausted at the beginning because I could just nap with him!
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@Running Elley: my sil got pregnant when get lo was 3mos. She says it's not too bad but she plans on having 2 more in the next 2 years. Eek.
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This is so hard to choose. Im currently 6 months pregnant with #2 and DD is 15 months. I am finding this to be extremely difficult. Like days where I wake up already exhausted and LO is whining at my feet and I still have to put ina full day! It would be nice to have one that was immobile but not sure if going through the beginning of toddler phase with a newborn isoverly appealing as well. On the other hand, an older toddler may be much more independent butyou lose that close gap between the two. Sooo... I have no idea!
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I think it ultimately depends to me on sleep but I think I'd rather be pregnant with a baby than a toddler. However that's just the pregnancy part! The newborn part Id rather do with an older kid.
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@Running Elley: see that's what I'm thinking. Besides my older brother and I are 14 months apart and my sister and I are 16 months apart. I love it that way!
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I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with baby 2 and I have a 2.5 year old. I'm happy the spacing has worked out so that the kids will be 3 years apart. My toddler is self sufficient enough that I don't have to constantly baby him...and he has been potty trained since this summer. If I had been pregnant when he was just over a year, I feel like it would have been way more stressful and tiring for me. That said, you can never really know what to expect!
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I voted toddler. I want LO to be potty trained before I have a another baby. I also want her to be ready for some type of preschool program so she can have her own activities out of the house while I'm caring for the newborn.
@lamariniere: this is the same spacing I'm shooting for. I'm planning to start trying for baby #2 after LO turns two...and hopefully they'll be right around 3 years apart
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