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I, unfortunately, got the worse end of both scenarios (difficult birth, though not a c/s). I'd pick the good delivery. Ive already formula fed one kid, it wouldn't make a difference to me to do another.

complicated c section but be able to breastfeed (assuming that the end result of the c section was a healthy baby and healthy mama, and it didn't affect my ability to have future children). Breastfeeding was/is important to me, and I didn't have strong feelings about the kind of delivery I wanted (didn't want a c section but would have been ok if I had to have one, mainly just wanted us both to be healthy). Also, the delivery is one day (although I know it can have lasting consequences for many who have a tough time); breastfeeding can be a year or two (or more)-- so it would be worth it to me to have a good breastfeeding relationship. Of course, I say this as someone who had an easy delivery and a tough time breastfeeding.

I'd pick the good delivery! Mainly because I am TERRIFIED of delivery. If I could have a scheduled c-section as opposed to bad labour + c section I'd choose that!

Before going into all this, I was very concerned about having a safe delivery (vaginal) but wasn't 100% certain I would be able to keep up with breastfeeding.

For me, the second option is tough, it means the mom really sacrificing the body for both delivery AND breastfeeding!

I would prefer to have a stressful / complicated delivery but be able to breastfeed.

I had un-complicated scheduled c-section, and only breastfed for 4 months (and never without it being stressful). I'm pretty much over the fact that I didn't get to breastfeed for as long as I would have liked, nor was it ever very satisfying, but I hated every second of my surgery and never want to do it again. Ever. I'd rather have had a wonderful vaginal birth and not had to go through a c-section and not breastfeed.

I would pick an easy birth.

I'd pick the good delivery. That was basically what I ended up with (after trying to BF for 3.5 months of hell). I'd love to be able to breastfeed my children but I also want to be able to look back with joy on the day that my children were born. That is more important to me.

I narrowly avoided a c-section but still had a long traumatic delivery (27 hours of active labour, ventouse delivery, episiotomy) and I had my share of struggles with breastfeeding (ties, thrush, strikes and bad latch) but looking back at eleven months post partum, I still wouldn't choose the other option.

Even with a c-section, recovery is only a short period of time versus being able to extended breastfeed into toddlerhood.

Tough question!

Breastfeeding was/is important to me and I was able to for over a year with both kids. I also had simple, uncomplicated deliveries - they were the best days of my life. I couldn't imagine looking back to when my children were born and feeling upset. I think about the day they were born whenever I have rough days as a mom so if it were traumatic, I might not be able to do that? I'm not sure. I'd pick the uncomplicated delivery. Sometimes, I feel like my time spent breastfeeding hasn't paid off because my children get sick often, DS has allergies and my children prefer DH over me most days - I wouldn't say we bond more because I breastfed/breastfeed.

I don't know. I had both and I know I'm very lucky. I have known some moms who were traumatized by their birth experience and couldn't bond with their babies right away. I wouldn't want that. So, I guess a good birth, no breastfeeding.

Number two is pretty much how it went for me. I'd do it again.
Breast feeding lasts a lot longer than delivery.

A friend of mine had an relatively easy vaginal delivery around the same time as I had my c section and my recovery was by far easier. Ironically, she's formula feeding now. But she was able to BF.

I had the first scenario -- uncomplicated delivery but unable to breastfeed. I've done that once, and it worked well for me, so I would do it again. I would hate to need a c-section the next time around after having one standard vaginal delivery.

I would choose the breastfeeding. I like breastfeeding. It's an important part of my relationship with LO, and we both enjoy it. I did have a difficult birth that lead to a c-section, so that more accurately describes the experience, as well.

I'm pretty sad about having a (complicated) vaginal delivery, but I've been breastfeeding for two years. That was one experience, this has been our way of life for HER entire life. I'd take breastfeeding over my dream delivery ANY day.

I chose csection and breastfeeding.

I had an unplanned csection and my recovery was super easy. Breastfeeding was possibly the most stressful experience of my life but I cherished the whole 14 months I was able to breastfeed. I loved the closeness and I LOVED the convenience...no bottle washing and no buying/mixing formula. I'd rather have one difficult day of delivery and be able to breastfeed...fortunately my csection was not complicated

I picked #2 because that's what happened to me! Even though recovery sucked (a lot!), BF-ing lasts a lot longer and I'm grateful I'm able to do it!