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I know there is no such thing really as stealing thunder, and there is enough love to go around, ectectect

I would still wait until after the wedding to announce.

Tough one! I would either tell this weekend, or wait until a little while after the wedding. Can you tell immediate family now but wait to tell all the aunts and uncles, etc, until a week or two after the wedding?

I don't know about you, but if i went to a family wedding and wasn't drinking, my family would talk about it and I think that would take more attention off the bride than telling a month in advance. If you do it now, people have a month to be all excited about it and then get back into wedding excitement mode.

While I don't really believe in "stealing thunder" there are also better and worse times to make big announcements. Any closer to the wedding and I would feel like you were getting into that territory. It also depends on the person-- some people will be so excited, and don't want gobs of attention on themselves, and wouldn't care, but other people would get really bent out of shape. FWIW my sister was planning to wait until after my bridal shower to tell our relatives that she was pregnant, and I was like, if you want to wait for you, go ahead, but don't hold off for me-- I was so thrilled about a nephew that I wanted to talk about that more than my wedding plans over and over.

ETA: I did wait to announce my pregnancy until after my little sister got engaged-- her fiance planned a big surprise dinner so I knew the date and it was right around the time I would have felt comfortable telling family, so I waited a few extra weeks. But it was easy to hide since I live 4 hours from everyone.

A month in advance is quite far to steal thunder! I say go ahead and tell them

That is sweet of your husband.

I would share. I think there's more possibility of "stealing her thunder" if you were trying to hide it and people were starting to get suspicious b/c you were tired or not drinking booze, etc.

Enjoy sharing your good news!

My husband had the same concerns as yours about our wedding. I was (unexpectedly) ~13 weeks at our wedding and DH request we not tell anyone until after we came back from our honeymoon because he didn't the news of a baby taking away from our wedding itself...I totally understood where he was coming from so we only told my mom (she figured it out) and during the week of our wedding she told my dad (he kept asking me to lift heavy things and she was super mad at him since I was pregnant). We waited to tell everyone else until ~16 weeks after we returned home.

Personally I would wait....people get so excited about babies and families like to plan early, especially if this is the first grandchild on either side. DS was our first and I was not showing at all at our wedding so no one was the wiser. DH and I really don't drink and the caterer switched out my champagne for cider so no one really second guessed my lack of alcohol consumption.

Share the news when you feel like sharing it at 7 weeks. Good news multiplied is a good thing in my opinion. Holding off wedfings, engagements, pregnancies -announcements and events seems so silly to me.

I think it just depends on your SIL's personality. Most people I know wouldn't care and would just be super excited, but there are a few who do believe in thunder stealing and would be mad if I happened to announce my pregnancy during the birthday month or something crazy like that. Obviously announcing AT the wedding would be a little much, but I think this far in advance is fine. People are always paying attention to the girl in a big white dress at weddings so she'd have nothing to worry about.

Considering I wasn't able to "hide" this pregnancy past 9 weeks I think telling sooner rather than later & having your news "farther" from her day is less likely to steal her thunder than wait & possibly have to spill the beans the week OR day of!

I do think it's sweet of your DH considering this though! kudos for him & Congrats!!