I know it’s quiet here now but I could use hive help! My 5 year old son has been potty trained for a couple of years. He still wears a pull up at night because we’ve tried ditching them a few times and he really just doesn’t wake up at night to pee. No big deal, we’ll wait for that part. But more and more he’s having accidents, mostly pee but sometimes poop too. He 100% knows he needs to go - is dancing around like crazy if it’s pee or sitting funny if it’s poop, and when we see that we tell him to go try but he usually refuses until the last minute and then has an accident. He starts kindergarten in the fall so we really need to get this under control! I’m not sure if we should go back to just forcing bathroom time every X amount of minutes or if there’s another way to help him, the issue is definitely he doesn’t want to stop what he’s doing to go to the bathroom. Thanks!
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This was 100% my son, who is 7 now and has mostly outgrown it but still not 100%. For what it's worth, I found it was better in kindergarten - he would still have accidents at home but rarely at school (although the number of days in the winter when he'd leave school without peeing and then get home and say "I peed in my snowpants"....I don't miss that). We talked a lot about listening to your body, your body is trying to tell you something, and you have to listen to it, and did rewards - whenever he "listened to his body" and went to the bathroom on his own he'd get a candy.
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My oldest did something similar around the same age, and now we are going through it with my 4.5 yo. It is so frustrating.
My my oldest she would start to pee her pants then run and finish in the bathroom. We just stayed cool about it and reminded her to go change her underwear. She stopped sometime before 1st grade I think. She wouldn’t do it at school, only at home.
My youngest is a whole other story. She will full on pee her pants and then not even say anything and go around all day with wet pants until we notice, both at home and at school. We are currently bribing her with a prize if she goes for a week without accidents with minimal success. We are making her go every 2 hours or so and she fights it almost every time. It is exhausting. We’ve been heaping lots of praise on her every time she goes to the bathroom without fighting and during the times her underwear stays dry and that has helped a bit.
All that to say, I think this is a pretty common phase and it will end eventually! I hope it gets easier for you soon.
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@erinbaderin: @Aria: thank you for sharing, the solidarity helps as I feel like I’m losing my marbles over this ha! My other 2 kids didn’t have this phase but good to know yours grew out of it eventually. I’ll try rewarding him for going on his own, that seems better than trying to continually punish for all the accidents!
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My middle went through this when she was almost 5, her pre K teachers said they were seeing it with many of the kids. Too busy to make it to bathroom. It lasted a few months and has since passed, to echo others, reminding to slow down and listen to body calmly helped us. Believe me I had my moments frustration. For her I think some of it was the stress of school changes, kindergarten, and just feeling it coming. Good luck!
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For one of mine this was a phase. She thought if she just peed in her pants a little she could skip a trip to the bathroom. For my other kid it is closely tied to constipation and we need to dose him Miralax if he has daytime accidents (nighttime too but we haven't totally solved that issue).
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