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For me personally, it's not a risk I would want to take at 65, since with AMA there is a greater risk of health issues for the babies, even with a singleton, let alone with quads...regardless of the health issues on myself. Besides, in her case she was already blessed with 13 children! I probably would have gotten my youngest a small dog she can baby if they really wanted a sibling that bad lol.

I can't say I fully agree with what she is doing. But at the same time men have kids at this age all the time so I hesitate to judge too much. Also, puts into perspective that some people get all up tight about having kids at 30, 35, or 40 when none of those ages are really all that old.

@SugarplumsMom: She had artificial insemination. Another article said both donated sperm and egg.

@Mrs.Pinecone316: This article has some additional information that is interesting (age range of children, number of fathers etc) and a picture of the growing bump.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3035399/Teacher-65-set-oldest-mother-quads-13-children.html

I'll admit that at first I was full of judgement/questions on how she'll do this, what this means, ect... What I find craziest is not her age by itself, but that she already has 13 kids and opted to try and have more at such an advanced age. It seems odd to me to do fertility treatments when you already have that many children, nevermind at 65.

But in the end it's her life. If she feels she can do this (physically and financially) and give these babies a good life, all the power to her!

I know it's not the nice or PC thing to say, but I'll say it anyway- I think this is really irresponsible. There are major risks involved- for those four babies and the mom- who still has young children to take care of. I don't see why they would have used four embryos- don't they not even usually do that in young healthy women now? Not my life but yeah... But I hope she continues with a healthy pregnancy and carries them as long as possible.

@Mrs.Pinecone316: I wonder if it has something to do with the story getting translated from other languages? Who knows what form of fertility treatment was actually used, but clearly something was used.

I think this is pretty damn crazy and stupid.

Who am I to judge? Whatever makes her happy as long as she's aware that the end result could be that she leaves her other kids motherless.

There was a 70 year old woman who gave birth to twins a couple years ago.

I used to be more judgey about this stuff and then I became a mom in my 40's and know lots of other women doing it. I have one friend who is currently pregnant at 50.

@Mrs. Jacks: I think the part that gets me though is that she already has 13 children. I think that's a completely different scenario than a ftm in her 40s/50s.

I think it seems pretty damn irresponsible.

Hmmm...I think it's interesting that she waited nearly ten years to have more children because she wanted "playmates" for her daughter. Ten years is a huge deal. I can't help but wonder what her true motivation is, especially since she has already had so many children.
Ultimately, it's her decision and my opinions have no bearing on that but it seems really unwise.

I think it's weird. I also find it strange her motivation was that her 9year old wanted a sibling...that just makes no sense to me! Maybe something got lost in translation

I think men having kids without fertility interventions at 65 is completely different than using donated sperm, donated eggs, and fertility medication to get pregnant as a woman at 65. Not to mention, a 65 year old father wouldn't be carrying the pregnancy or going through childbirth and postpartum recovery.

Crazy is all I can say.

To follow on from what @Applesandbananas: said in that I assume a 65 year old father would be having a child with a younger woman usually, which means they would hopefully have at least one parent for a good portion of their life. Two 65 year old parents isn't a whole lot of life expectancy for a new child.

If this was done via fertility treatments, as some articles imply, it makes me feel quite angry at the clinic(s) involved.

There are protocols in place for reasons. This is pretty insane.

Also.... my IF hat on here, but there are so many women struggling for a child, and then we have articles like this floating around.... it makes me sad how the world works sometimes.

This leaves me wanting more information, honestly...and that makes me uncomfortable. It's as if I have to go through a list of criteria to decide if it's okay or not, and that makes me mad at myself because who am I to judge? Age, method, family structure, finances, etc are all so variable.

@blackbird: I both agree and disagree with your response. I do think that the mother should not be having a child to satisfy her youngest child's desire to be an older sibling. As it stated in the article the mother has 7 grandchildren making her youngest an aunt several times over. She could have steered her youngest towards bonding with the younger children in the family, if this pregnancy was truly motivated by her child's desire for a younger sibling.

As for the age difference, I was 9 when my only sibling was born and at 20 my parents put it in their will that i would be his legal guardian if something were to happen to them. Now I dont expect this woman to put all 4 babies in care of her 9 year old but i assume that one of the older siblings would be responsible for them if something were to happen to the mother. And I hope this woman was responsible enough to include that person in the discussion before she started the process of becoming pregnant at 65.

As a mother of multiples myself (albeit, HALF the number she is getting here!) I will just say that I hope they are good eaters, good sleepers, and some of those other 13 children are going to be around a long time to help her. I cannot even imagine having four at a time at my age (30), let alone what that'd be like at 65.