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@dc yoga bee: You said it best, your journey is your journey....I am sorry you are not gong ho this cycle, but sometimes a mental break can help you physically as well....take your time only you and DH know what is best to start your family!!!!! Best of luck!

@Mrs.Panda: I just BD when we want now but try and get every day of fertile CM. I figured you have a very small chance without that stuff anyway and smep was stressing me out waiting to O

@Crystal: we just had a date night and it was fun but I feel like he and I are kind of on opposite ends of the spectrum right now when it comes to the vision we have for our future and that's been creating a lot of tension.

my cycle has been wonky... AF was supposed to arrive towards the end of December and it decided to take its time to show up... AF finally arrived so i'm out....

good luck to all the other bees!!

@Adira: how frustrating!

@Snowdrop: @Mrs.Panda: Thanks ladies! I'm trying not to be too upset - this was my first cycle postpartum and we're only NTNP, so I really just wanted to temp this cycle to figure out if I still O around the same time as I used to. But it's crazy how one gets sucked into TTC world and get your hopes up even when you're not really "trying"!!

@septca: Oh! I AM nursing! I didn't realize that could mess with your temps! Thank you! I'll have to see if I can find my TCOYF and read that chapter!!

@butterbean: sorry to hear that!!

@Mrs.Panda: my avatar IS a broken picture, it was meant to be this one below (finally got wedding pics back) but I just can't seem to upload one, annoying!

@Smurfette: OPKs? I never needed them before because my cycle was so regular... I'm kind of hoping that it goes back to that, though if it stays wonky, I may have to!

@Snowdrop: Look at that STUNNING bride and those crocus! Oh my! GORGEOUS picture!!

@Adira: Temping with a child is almost impossible... I recommend OPKs

@littlek: any word on your results?

I took a little bit of a break from this thread for the past few days (sometimes it helps to see everyone else who is playing the waiting game with me and sometimes it keeps me focused on it to a point where I just need to step away, as I'm sure you've all experienced yourselves at some point) and I was really, really hoping to see at least one when I came back but it looks like everyone is having a bit of a tough time this new year so far. My heart goes out to all of you who are out already this month and my fingers are crossed for all of you still to test.

Because my husband and I live across an ocean from family and friends, we are used to sharing lots about our lives on facebook because there's really only so many times I want to type up or skype about the same things over and over again. When it was decided we would be doing the surrogate thing, I talked about it quite a bit as I was figuring everything out so pretty much everyone is aware of what we are doing. But then we actually started the IUI process and for the first time felt like this was something that we didn't want to have to share with everyone. That anxiety and repressed excitement of waiting to see if this month's IUI was the one, the disappointment when it's not, the picking yourself up and trying all over again... it all takes a lot out of you both emotionally and physically (and I'm not even the one taking the clomid and going through all the IUI appointments!) and for the first time, it's caused my husband and I to not want everyone involved. Unfortunately though, everyone already knows and now that we are in our third month of IUI where neither of us have been very social, we are starting to get hounded with innocent questions and requests for status updates and I'm starting to lose my mind a bit. I even postponed skyping with my in laws during Christmas because I just didn't want to have to deal with their very well-meaning inquiries and support. I feel like an ungrateful heel to be perfectly honest and I know that when I try to explain that I'd rather not talk about it at the moment but we'll let them know when there's something TO know, they seem like they understand but I still feel like they are all thinking I'm being a drama queen or something trying to get more attention or whatever like those people who post things like, "my heart hurts today," on facebook just so that everyone clamors all over them to find out why.

So really, while I am anxious for this baby to become a reality, a good portion of that anxiety stems from just being able to tell everyone, yes, the pregnancy is a go, and to stop feeling so damn guilty for wishing we never told our family and friends in the first place.

Anyone else going through something vaguely familiar as well? LOL

@littlek: I had no idea! Thanks!

@Snowdrop: gorgeous! Have you submitted a help request to Mr. Bee? He's awesome at fixing things around here!

http://help.hellobee.com/

@littlek: Well, I don't have that problem - I usually get at least 6 hours of sleep, though I wake up at totally different times during the week than I do on the weekend, but I had that problem pre-baby too, so I was hoping that I would be able to temp accurately. But my temps have been all over the place so far, so I have no idea what's going on!

@littlek: Oh, hmm, maybe that would be a good option! I'll have to look into that!

Good luck ladies I'm mrs tartan, I'm 27, mr tartan is 33 and we have been married for 4 months.

Estimated O Date: 12th jan so hopefully this week is our week!
POAS/AF date: lmp 24th jan, 32/33 day cycle
Cycle #: 8th month not preventing, 5th cycle actively trying
Chart link: not yet charting, agreed with myself would start after 6 months of ttc.
Trying new this cycle: cervical mucus charting
What are your New Year’s resolutions? This WILL be the year I conceive our baby! Whatever it takes. We will ask for medical help if nothing has happened by may.