keeping my fingers crossed for all of you 
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@MrsMccarthy: we do! I'm on cycle 7, and it Is starting to feel bleak. Hopefully we will all get our BFPs soon!
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@sapphire: sorry you're out this month. It is so disappointing when you are trying to make it happen...we're so used to putting effort into something and achieving it...at least that's how I feel. And all the waiting for a new cycle to try again...it can definitely be discouraging when others are getting pregnant their first cycle. I just try to stay super busy and focus on other projects (plan a trip!)...it seems to make the time pass faster. I'm wishing you the best for your next cycle!
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@Mrs. Tea: on the iPad and yours definitely look like they have more color than your husbands (his looks more gray like an evap). FX!!
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@Mrs.Panda: Well, I'm out. Despite extremely sore breasts and bouts of dizziness that had me convinced I'm (once again) crushed.
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@HolisticMama: Same here. It feels so good to feel pregnant. But, for me, that happens almost every cycle. Then, when reality hits, it's so, so hard.
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@Mrs. Tea: I agree with PP, I'd definitely retest. Fx!!!
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I have a feeling the BFPs are on their way.. Most likely @mrs. Tea will be our first!!!!
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@Crystal: sorry AF us worse than usually but glad you will be able to move in to trying again soon!
@CatchAFallingStar: I'm sorry
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Update: there are no babies on the way in these parts. I am actually pretty relieved at this point because the article about men and positive tests completely scared me.
This mornings "real" test was a stark white negative so apparently they were faulty tests after all.
I think we actually may take a break from trying, it's not supposed to be so dramatic.!
Thank all of you for your support
keeping my fingers crossed for all of you Whew... This whole ordeal wore me out!
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@Mrs. Tea: it is exhausting... I'm sorry this isn't your month and I do hope you stay around so we can congratulate you when it does happen.
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@bushelandapeck: thanks so much for your kind words
I'll be here and hopefully celebrating with some bfps soon!
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@CatchAFallingStar: @Mrs. Tea: So sorry you are out this month. I hope you get your bfp soon.
As for me, today is 1DPO. We BD O-3, O-1, and O. Do you guys usually BD O+1 as well???
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@dc yoga bee: we did O+1 the first time I conceived but not the second. I say go for it if you and DH have it in ya'!
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@Mrs. Tea: I'm so sorry.. I thought for sure you were going to get a BFP today
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So, today is going to be an interesting day. I woke up at 3:30 a.m. to pee and never really feel back asleep.
No updates on me, AF is due today or tomorrow. Nothing so far... My husband leaves for a boys weekend tomorrow morning so if AF does not show up.. I may test in the morning..
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@dc yoga bee: Sure, why not?
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@mrs.tea: just caught up on the posts. How awful to go through all that!
@crystal: Hoping this af is just a freak and the next one will be back to normal, or hopefully non existant!I have found that getting af at the beginning used to be worse because I really expected to be ku. But now overall as others have said, its starting to feel bleak. Seeing two lines feels about as realistic as seeing a winning lottery ticket! @Sapphire: sorry to hear you are back at CD1.
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@littlek: i totally think you are going to be this month's first BFP
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Lol i guess moreso I shouldve asked is O+1 BD needed, or can my lady bits get a break. Today would be *3* days in a row/4 x in 6 days. I have never done 3 days in a row in my entire life!
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@CatchAFallingStar: @Mrs. Tea: @sapphire: I'm sorry ladies, moving on to the next cycle can be so hard
@littlek: you have a willpower made of steel
I'd be peeing on anything and everything ( ok that's gross but you know what I mean!!)@dc yoga bee: SMEP rec's BD O, O+1, O+2 taking a break and then O+4 but girl I am impressed with anyone that can do that bec I seriously need both a break and a drink with so much BD in a week!
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@cmbknyc: oh no! I thought smep was the three days once you get a positive opk, break, then once more. I always get positive opk and o the next day so that was o-1, o, and o+1. I think i will try to be uo for once more tonight and,that is it my friends lol.
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Morning All,
Catching up here. Happy Thursday. It feels like it should be Friday.
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Question for All:
Do you think that testing and charting makes TTC more stressful?Also, I think DH would die if we did it 3 days in a row. LOL.
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@dc yoga bee: I never BD after O date. My lady parts need a break also!
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@HolisticMama: we are normally a twice a month couple and dh always complains he would prefer 4x a week. Well since ttc and doing it 3x a week he has since changed his tune! It's so exhausting! ! Our record is two days in a row and let me tell yrs, day 2 is completly a phoning it in day!
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@dc yoga bee: I don't follow SMEP and most cycles (especially TTC #2) I just try for the best timing I can get. But my *ideal* timing would be O-4, O-2, O-1, and O. O-4 is to clear everything out and make sure the swimmers for the rest of the BD days ate "fresh." I think the best way to achieve this is to BD EOD starting about 6 days before you expect O, and then ED once your OPKs start to fade in.
The cycle we conceived DD we hit my ideal plus O+1, but we were on vacation so BDing was less stressful. I do NOT think O+1 is necessary. Sure, your egg lives for 24 hours, but it is only really good for 12, so depending on what time of day you O, O+1 might be pointless. My feelings on O+1 are if it happens, great. If not, no stress. This cycle we only have O-2 and O, but it is what it is.
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@HolisticMama: our first month I think we literally did it 2/3 weeks in a row, it was also our honeymoon and TTC was actually exciting then! Now I only BD in a row if there is fertile cm...
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@HolisticMama: I think our BD record, at least while TTC, has been 5 days in a row? At this point, I don't want to have regrets that I didn't do this or I didn't do that. I just want to be pregnant so I give it whatever it takes.
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@LindsayInNY: I totally get that feeling. I've changed quite a few things in my life in the last year preparing to TTC. I just feel kind of bummed that making a baby takes two. LOL. I can't control what DH will do. I was just looking at our calendar and I'm a bit sad, because I don't think I can get DH to DTD every other day in our fertile window. :: sigh ::
So I try to be zen and control what I can control. And holy geeze...there is so much out of my control.
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@dc yoga bee: We don't do SMEP because it wears my husband out. We have sex every other day starting at CD8 for a week and a half.
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@dc yoga bee: I'd take a break then.
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@Snowdrop: Wow.. just wow... I think our most is 4 days straight.
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@LindsayInNY: you are a saint!! I told dh on day 2 in a row that i would not be participating. Just get the job done dear LOL!
@septca: I feel great about o-3, o-1, and o this month. Especially since we decided on a whim not to take a break, and it just so happened to be the start of my fertile week. I'm hoping it's a sign this is our month! I think your timing is great too because all those charts we see floating around the boards show those 3-4 days before have a higher likelihood of conception.
ETA: @snowdrop: Holy Moly Wow!!!!
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DH says that he wouldn't really be itchy for a baby until his mid-30s. But I have the egg count of someone in their mid-40s. So we simply can't wait that long. And my eyes have been getting misty when an infant makes eye contact with me for the last year. Ha.
Are you and your DH on the same "timeline" per say? Or is he going with the flow because he loves you and has a good grip on biology?
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@dc yoga bee: After 10 cycles and 13 months, your approach to TTC changes... Hell, it changed before then. I don't want to look back when AF arrives and wonder "what if we BD more" or "what if we did X". I don't want that uncertainty if that's the reason I'm not pregnant so we just give it our all now. Literally.
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@HolisticMama: We are on the same timeline/ DH has higher baby rabies than me. His ultimate goal in life is to be a good dad. He told ne that whike we were dating, and wow just wow. My ultimate goal at the time was to pass the bar exam, and be a good lawyer! Now that that's all said and done, I moved our timeline up from starting this summer for him because he really wants a family now, and it could take a while anyways.
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@LindsayInNY: I hear ya. I hope so badly for you that you get your take home baby soon. Youre going to be a great mom!
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@HolisticMama: I think it really depends on your personality and life factors whether charting is stressful. I am kind of a control freak (which I battle - it's not easy being a good wife or mother when you have control issues), so I charted from the day after I stopped BCP to TTC #1. I wanted to see if my cycles were regular, confirm that I O, etc. After 6/7 cycles I gave up temping because my cycle was so regular that I didn't feel like I needed it anymore. But I do need the chart - it gives me so much information about what my body is doing. Now that we are TTC #2, charting is invaluable. There is just no way we could time things well otherwise. I also (as I have mentioned many times) have health issues that force me to TTC against the clock, so NTNP just isn't an option for us.
That said, I think that charting can be extremely stressful for many women. It seems like it would ideal for women to "have fun" and "see what happens" for a few months before jumping in to charting, but that was never going to be me.
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@dc yoga bee: I think you can take a break
our longest streak was 5 days I think and it's when we were on our honeymoon and conceived LO. The last time I got pregnant we only did it once at 0-2 and still got pregnant.
@HolisticMama: I think DH and I are on the same page but we are both in our 30's (I'm 33, DH. 35) so we know we want to get the show on the road and have LO's somewhat close in age if we can. It will be interesting to see how well we do when we have two running around though! Lol. Toddlers are no joke! -
@bushelandapeck: toddlers are no joke... so true!!
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@septca: I agree. I don't temp but I do chart because it gives me a sense of control and something to compare the months against. I am finding using OPKs to be very stressful though so I may go back to using the CBEFM next month if it doesn't happen this month. I can't stand not knowing if/when I will O.
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