DH's cousin is getting married. We have the save the date, it was addressed to Mr. And Mrs. SweetCaroline. The FAQs on the wedding website says "Are kids welcome? Unless specified on the invitation, this is an adult only reception."

So...what does this mean for the ceremony? It is a Catholic mass and DD will be 5, is used to Catholic mass and very well behaved. (Though regardless of any of that, still trying to determine the couple's intentions) The wedding is several hours away and it would be lovely to make a family weekend out of it, attend the wedding and skip the ceremony. Especially since we both WOH FT and out family time is limited. BUT, is this a faux pas? Not trying to violate their wishes or stretch socially acceptable here, just genuinely curious how others would interpret this.