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Thanks, everyone, for all the support and feedback! I know you all are right - everyone always has an opinion about EVERYTHING.

@Foodnerd81: Hahaha of course. You know if this isn't a boy, people will be asking us when we're going to start trying for a boy, like, in the delivery room! Seriously, everyone just wants to know if we'll do another gender reveal, since the cake shop botched the last one (forgot to dye the icing!!!!!).

@snowjewelz: Seriously, why must everyone have verbal diarrhea about our personal lives?! So many comments! I don't even think your situation is uncommon - I'd have been tempted to respond with something very TMI about all the sex we'd been having as newlyweds, hehehe.

@whiskers: That's a really good point about making a big deal of announcements so people know we're excited, not going "oops!" and trying to hide it.

@catomd00: The age difference isn't a big deal, it's just not quite so common in NYC for people to have three kids, particularly all with the same set of parents, all close together...at least in my social circles. People usually head to the suburbs if they're going to take the plunge, and there have recently been some really scathing articles about people doing it as a status symbol just to prove they can afford it (which is such a stupid premise for an article, because I doubt it's true for almost anyone!)

@autumnlove: Haha, yes, this. We have a number of friends who have made it very clear that while they enjoy our children on a limited basis, they want none of their own, whatsoever. I'm quite certain they'll be like "Great, you decided to cover for us, too. Thanks!"

@mrsrain: When someone asked me how I even found time to get pregnant in the first place, I made a snarky comment about my kids being great sleepers!

@winniebee: Those are our age differences, too, but in the opposite order (22 months for DD1 and DD2; 2.5 years this time). Curious to see if we both stick to the sexes we currently have, or get the opposite!

@iheartleopardprint: That's awesome that you and your SO are growing your family together, and anyone that would have anything negative to say about it is just heartless! Congrats!

@Crisark: The benefit of your situation was with the older two in school, it's almost like you get the chance to do the first baby thing all over again! I'm sure you had plenty of peanut gallery weighing in, though - grr!

@Aandmklover: Congrats to you, too! DH and are both genuinely thrilled with whatever sex this baby is. He currently thinks girl and I think boy, and I keep flip flopping over which I'd actually want if I could choose! I don't think we'll know til my anatomy scan. I'm under 35 and have had healthy babies, so it's looking like they won't do any of the NIPT or Maternity21 testing I thought I might get in the next few weeks.

@2littlepumpkins: Totally true - it's really not a tight age gap with #2 and #3 - quite honestly, if it'd been much larger, I would have wanted to wait a bit longer (like 4-5 years), then have two more really close together for a total of four.

@T.H.O.U.: Very true. I don't think we'll announce in the sense of Facebook/distant friends for some time, but I will tell people close to us who we see a lot.

@oliviaoblivia: @FaithFertility: Please. Parenting any number of kiddos naturally involves some level of delusion

@oliviaoblivia: Glad you had mostly positive reactions and are rockin' the three kids thing! While I know they must be coming from a tough place, I'm sorry your friends/relatives coping with IF made you feel like you're doing something wrong - life's not a zero sum game, and your third baby didn't "take away" theirs. Right now, believe it or not, ALL of our friends are either openly finished having kids (or say they're not ready to try again), pregnant, or are about to get married/just married within the past month and are waiting to try. I actually wanted to let that last group know early on to kind of put it out there before it's possible I'd be "stealing their thunder" by announcing at the same time/just before they were ready to, if that makes sense.