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Totally selfishly I want you to find out! But I'm not Jewish, or a mom, so that's the extent of my advice

I did this exact thing and it was wonderful! Being Team Green was fun. Our bris was a very small affair - just my parents, his dad and 5 of our nearest and dearest, but I think you could easily have more people without too much more work.

I found a mohel (actually a mohelet - I LOVED that it was a woman! but we're Reform). I told her I may or may not need her services and she was totally cool with that. I found out all about the process, cost, etc. a couple months before my due date and then put my husband in charge of calling her when the baby was born if we needed her services. We scheduled the bris for 8 days later. My parents had come to town a few days before so I put them in charge of gathering everything we needed including stuff for the bris itself and some flowers and food. You could do most of this in advance - considering you're thinking about it at 10 weeks you sound like a planner!

Here's the website for my mohelet with the supplies she suggested (and if you're in the NYC/NJ area I highly recommend her): http://birthtobris.com/britmilahpreparation.html

It all worked out really well and I'm so glad we didn't find out beforehand because I loved being surprised. Good luck and mazel tov!

@JoJoGirl - I'm sure they do in most cases! Of the 3 I've been to in the last few years, the only mom that didn't cry (and watched intently) was the one who knew ahead of time that it was a boy. Though she finds those sorts of things interesting to watch.

We are team green. But if I was Jewish... I think I would want to know. I just wouldn't want to spend time and energy planning something that wasn't necessary... but I also wouldn't want to leave it to the last minute and then try to rush the planning. For us the circ will be done by our ped and we would need a ped anyway and he does rounds in the hospital every day so no matter if we have a boy or girl he'll be there. So for us there is no advance planning needed.

I've been to several bris ceremonies for team green babies, and they all worked out just fine. On the flip side, we aren't team green, but aren't telling anyone IRL (except immediate family) about the gender of the baby. That said, we have said all along that we're planning to do either a bris or a formal naming ceremony on that 8th day regardless of whether it's a boy or girl, so now I can go ahead and plan (when we're closer) without people reading into it!

We were Team Green! Our little one is 17 days new today! He had to stay in the hospital longer then we expected (2 extra nights). He was born on a Friday and on Sunday we started calling Mohels, we had nothing set up. Found one we liked and planned a time with him for that Friday. Our LO's Bris was perfect. We had 45 people there, invited a lot more, but with it being a Friday morning, a little difficult for all to make it.

Hubby and I ran a few errands the day before and LO stayed in the car with hubby and I ran in to get balloons and table clothes and the supplies listed on the Mohels site. My MIL and SIL took care of ordering the food and were able to hire a waitress for a minimal cost, which was so great to have, we didnt have to do any cleaning up.

It worked out so well all in all. I watched the whole thing and got a little teary eyed, but surprisingly did not cry.

DH is Jewish (although I am not), and we did find out, but I think you are perfectly fine to stay Team Green if that's what you want. Here's the thing- I had my baby almost 4 weeks early. We had a week to get ready for the Bris, and it was fine- almost 75 people showed up, and it was on a Wednesday evening! So, it's definitely possible to get things thrown together in 8 days!

What we did is pick a Mohel ahead of time to let them know we were interested in his services, and like PP said, we just called his office from the hospital to let them know LO was born and set up the Bris date and time.

I don't think it's unreasonable to put the parents in charge of actually putting together the Bris. You're going to be new parents and exhausted- you don't need to worry about organizing a party. Maybe make a big list of things you need, so that when your parents fly in, all they will have to do is run to Costco or the grocery store/deli and pick up everything. All you really need is a location for the ceremony, and depending on time of day, light refreshments- your Mohel might only be available at 2 pm for your Bris, so you wouldn't need to plan a big meal.

Oh, and have all of your email addresses/phone numbers ready a month before the due date. MIL did this, so all she had to do was fill in the date/time of the Bris and hit send on an Evite. I think Evites are kind of tacky for special occasions like this, but it's really the easiest way to let people know ASAP about the Bris, and so I had to overlook that for timing's sake.

That should get you organized about as much as you possibly could be... even if LO is a girl, you'll have all the information you'll need if you want to do a baby naming at a later date

We didn't, but we couldn't really plan anything beforehand anyway. All we got was the phone number of the mohel. After we got home from the hospital DH called him and the people we wanted to invite. Day before he went out and got paper goods. Morning of he went to Costco and got food and both our mothers put it all together. If you have it at your home like us, it's really not that big of a deal.