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As long as they aren't abusive or their choices don't affect my kid, I don't really care.

I feel the same way as you do...I have my own kiddo's to worry about, it seems exhausting to judge other parents choices.

Now that I'm a parent myself, I can no longer imagine judging anyone else's parenting choices (unless it comes down to issues of safety or neglect).

Actually, I guess when we're talking about older kids I probably am still judgy when it comes to discipline issues. I hate seeing parents who just let their kids get away with murder. But as far as taking care of a baby, now I see that parenting is trial by fire, and you end up doing things that you never thought you would do!

I sort of get judgey when I see a parent do something I wouldn't do but then I stop myself because I know we are all just trying to survive. Some people think I'm ridiculous for planning my life around LO's sleep schedule but whatever, right?

I'm not a parent, and I do find myself judging parents sometimes. I know this isn't fair and it'll change once I have a little but some people ..I just don't understand their methods lol. I would never question a parent though, unless they were abusing their child

Absolutely not. I notice when parents are doing kind of unusual things as far as parenting, but I cut it off before I get judgy. DH, however, does get judgy and I have to bring him back down to earth sometimes and remind him that parenting is a very tough job and no one is perfect so you can't even go there unless obviously the child is being clearly abused.

I have a personal rule regarding judging: I will judge on issues on right and wrong. I will not judge on issues of preference. If I see something going on I try to ask myself if it falls into the first or second category and adjust my thoughts accordingly. Example: For me personally, letting your kid hit you because they didn't get their way is an issue of right and wrong and I will judge. Choosing to let your kid have ice cream is a preference and I won't judge. That being said...your version of right/wrong vs preference might be different than mine.

Sometimes. I was judgey recently at lunch. We were at a mexican restaurant and a family at the table next to us sat down with their two boys (one probably about 4 and the other probably less than 18 months). I watched the mom fill the youngest son's bottle with iced tea and then let him eat chips and hot queso. The queso was too hot and he burnt his mouth and ended up throwing up everything because of it. Situations like that I totally judge their actions because that was easily avoidable and not smart. Obviously I don't say anything to the parents, just my husband.

Yes, have to agree with @Alivoo01. This is a big subject of conversation between my husband and me. Before we became parents we talked about people we knew and why they turned out the way they did and what their parents did to contribute to that. Now that we are parents we gossip about other family members mostly, "pssss, did you hear your cousin say that his kid's first word was coke? WTH!"

I try not to be so bad...especially since I don't have kids yet (at least for 8 more weeks). It has been hard watching my SIL raise our nephew. He is about to turn 4 and has been exposed to potty training, but is still in diapers...she feeds him tons of candy and sugary drinks which have caused his gums and front teeth to rot out. I think there is probably a fine line between clueless parenting (her) and bad parenting.

I find that I am judgy until I have gone through that myself. Then I feel bad about having been judgy.

Yup, I'm judgy. Having a kid is 100% a voluntary and optional lifechoice, and it means you are responsible for raising a person and shaping/molding them. When someone is obviously a crap parent who isn't particularly involved and makes poor decisions of course I feel judgy.

Since I'm not a parent yet, I'm sure this will change, but as of right now, I am judgy but more in the way that ALIVOO01 describes. It's a way for me and DH to hash out some of our own opinions and plan how we would like to do things, not as gossip and not as a put down to that parent, though. I never ever say anything (and thankfully have not been in a situation where it was cause for fear of harm; I would probably say something in a nonjudgmental way at that point for the kid's safety.)

I can be, although I usually keep it to myself (and never say something to the person, just say it to my husband or friend that I'm with). The biggest example is when I see parents out at midnight with really little kids-- I just can't really see why or when that is appropriate. Not infants who can sleep through anything, even, like 2 year olds who should be in bed!
Other things, I might side eye, but I know there are reasons-- like when I see a big kid in a stroller, part of me wants to be like, shouldn't he be walking? But I know, maybe they are out for a really long time and he can't walk that long, maybe he is big for his age and way younger, maybe he can't walk, so I try to not think that.
I think I'm generally pretty tolerant, but the keeping kids out that late kills me.