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No. I didn't realize my dad was that sick. And my MIL passed very suddenly as well, back in 2009 she had a heart attack/stroke.

Thankfully my mom comes from a family of long-lived people & she's in great health!

I'm not even closed to prepared. Our parents are in their mid 50's and I feel like they have so many years still to live.

My mom is my best friend & is VERY much part of my day to day life. I work for her & she lives just a street over so G visits her frequently.... I honestly don't know what I'll do if she passed suddenly & I am in no way prepared! I'm not nearly as close with my dad since he lives hours away but I know it would still be very difficult. I just continue to pray & believe that both my parents will be around a loooong time!

No way. I can't even imagine it. DH lost his Mom suddenly befor we met and it still today, 6 years later, is so hard on him.

I do think about it when I leave my parents. Since I'm on the west coast and so far away, I wonder about these things.

I think about it but I an in no way prepared. I have the most amazing parents ever and I can't imagine my life without them. Luckily longevity runs in both sides of my family. My mom did have two cancer scares (stage IV breast cancer 30 years ago & uterine cancer 7 yes ago), but she's doing great. I do try to see them as much as possible, even though they live on the west coast. I've already seen them 3x this year. LO has taken 6 plane flights at 5mo old!

No way. My parents are in their mid to upper 50's and just within the past few years they have started to look older! But they are super healthy. My in-laws are in their mid 40's (had DH when they were very young) and they are extremely unhealthy. MIL is a chain smoker and FIL is in really bad shape (he lost a lung, eats tons of sugar despite having diabetes and his skin always looks gray). He never took care of himself. I've known this for awhile so I think I'm more prepared to let them go but I'd still be devastated.

In a way, I am. Both parents have been through a lot of health problems in the past 10 years so I think it helped me to realize they're getting older. But I don't think anything can really prepare you for losing your parent.

Not even close. My parents are in their forties, are 25% of my childcare for LO, and I see them 3x a week. Heck, my mom still buys me clothes and stuff just for fun....she still is so young and such a "mom figure" in my life.

However, DHs father was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and it has been tremendously hard. He is only 50 and is my husband's best friend. He helps us with SO much...he is a God-send in our lives. The thought of him leaving us soon is unbearable.

Definitely not.

I wasn't - my mum fought her battle with breast cancer for four years and I was still devastated when she passed away. I actually don't know how you could be prepared for it...

Mom passed away unexpectedly 6 years ago. I was, of course, devastated. Sometimes I wonder what will happen when dad is gone. I was living abroad when mom died and will most likely be far from home when it happens again (hopefully in many many years). I don't think you can ever really prepare for something like the death of an immediate family member. I had a recent discussion with a friend who has never lost anyone close. You just can't understand the magnitude of the loss of a loved one and the effect it will have on you until it happens to you.

It's something I am bracing myself for and have discussed with my therapist. My dad keeps having heart issues. His pacemaker has gone off four or five times in the last year, yet he hasnt atopped smoking or drinking. Mom says he won't live long but I don't know if that's true or if she's being way over dramatic (which she is known to do). I've already lost a sibling, so loss of close family is not new to me, unfortunately.

So not, but they are in their early 50's. I am still not prepared for my paternal grandparents to pass on, I'm having trouble dealing with the fact that their getting older (my gramma was only 39 when I was born)

Never. My dad was 60 and was diagnosed with an extremely rare cancer. It was not considered terminal, but he died from it 7 months later. It was 4 months to the day before our wedding and it was so hard getting married without him. It has been 2 years and it's still terribly, terribly hard. My mom is in good health but I'm overly frantic about her getting sick or if I can't get a hold of her on the phone.

My dad passed away from skin cancer when I was 19. He was sick for several years. A friend of mine's mother died suddenly of a stroke around the same time. I often think about that, but usually decide there's no way to compare experiences like that. Having time to prepare or not. It's always just going to be terrible.

One interesting thing was the bf I was with at the time (a serious relationship, 4 years, we lived together etc.,) told me that being with me through my dad's illness and passing made him feel like he would be able to get through a parent's death. It was nice in a weird and sad way. Hmm.

i like to mentally prepare for things - it really helps me cope with it on an emotional level.
however, as much as i try to mentally prepare for the ultimate passing of my mom (and dogs), i don't think there's anything i can do to really be ready for it, emotionally.

I don't think I will ever be emotionally ready to deal with my parents passing away but since my parents and in-laws are in their late 60's- early 70's; it's something I know I have to think about. My mom has recovered from (advanced when it was found) breast cancer and a heart attack; so I have spent time thinking about the inevitable. (luckily she is healthy now!!). I do think about the non-emotional aspects of death; if my dad dies first we will need to financially support my mom, and I'll be responsible for going through their home and getting it ready for sale after 1 or both my parents pass. My DH is am only child, so we will be solely responsible for everything after either of his parents pass on, and we are the executors of all the parents/in-laws so we will also deal with the inevitable, nasty family fights that always seem to happen after people pass away.

No. My mom lives a healthier lifestyle than me! She's been juicing forever, drinks tons of water, exercises everyday, although I wish she ate better and slows down a little. I expect her to be around for her great-grand kids!

No, but I do think about it. My dad is turning 60 this year, my mom 59, and although they are in good health, I've started to wonder how I would deal with it, especially now that I'm having a baby. My dad is re-marrying to a woman with 3 kids, and although I am the executor of his will, I do wonder what a mess sorting out his estate will be, and if I'll be allowed to have things of sentimental value, etc. That may seem selfish, but the mess my grandpa's death left made me realize that families turn on each other a lot after such events.

I worry quite a bit more about my MIL/FIL. They are alcoholics and chain smokers, and to be quite honest, I'm surprised they've made it to their late 50s. They look 20 years older than my parents, and I've had a couple talks with DH about what we will do if one of his parents passes.