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I listen to mine most of the time, but I think that's because she's very good at keeping her opinion to herself unless it's regarding something that really matters.

It sounds like in your case you need to stand your ground as long as you agree with your doctor's recommendation. Have you had a good relationship with him/her so far or are there other reasons for your mom to believe that you're not getting the best possible care?

I trust and respect my mom and always consider her opinion, but make my own decision (with my husband if it's something that impacts him).

Moms never want to see their kids in distress! With something like this, unless your mom knows the medicine, I would say "thanks mom that's definitely something to consider." But I guess in my view, OBs are the ones who deal with this stuff every day and have been trained for many many many years. While it's good to ask probing questions of your OB and to know what your options are, I would follow the OB's recommendation since it's not just your health the OB has to look out for, but also the health of your baby. Maybe she is concerned about lawsuits, but it could be because she knows the medicine enough to know what possible complications exist if you don't induce by X date. Of course, calling around for a second opinion won't hurt.

Good luck!

She says that it's her turn to be the child now... I try to listen to most of her mama/baby advice, there's been one or two things where I know things are different now than when she had us.

I take my mom's (and dad's) advice more often than not. My parents are very logical and really good at knowing whether or not they should be giving advice in a particular area. A lot of times there advice will consist of something like "You know who would be good to ask about this is _____" which shows me they are interested in helping me but don't give me advice on something they know nothing about.

It depends ... if she felt really strongly that I was getting bad medical advice, then I would look into it further for sure.

I listen to my mom a lot, but it doesn't hurt that I agree with her on most things. Sometimes I don't listen to her but I just don't say anything about whatever it is.. She understands! Hope everything works out for you.

At several points in my life, I have made decisions that my mom did not support, or at least openly questioned, because (at the time) she didn't know all the facts driving the decision (like the decision to leave my last long-term relationship before I met DH). It was really hard to stand my ground, and eventually, when--and if!--I felt it was appropriate, I would give her the background deets. Otherwise, I was calling the shots, and that was that.

Like @MrsWagon, my relationship with my mom was difficult during my teenage/ early adult years (and I was not a rebellious kid at all!), and it took a long time for me to forge a friendship with my mom. I do ask for her advice, but there are just some times that we can't agree (although she doesn't always know when those times are), and I have learned to rely on myself (and DH) during those times.

Like @WinnieBee wrote, knowing all your options is always a good idea. But if you feel good about you and your OB's plan for your delivery (and it sounds like you do), then trust your gut and do what you both think is best for you and your LO.