A few weeks ago some very wonderful friends of mine offered to throw me a shower. However, none of them live near me and trying to come up with a plan that works for several people was completely stressing me out. I got so incredibly stressed by my bridal shower that I wanted nothing to do with showers ever again, but my friends convinced me. So I asked DH to step in. I also suggested that since none of my friends are very well off, that he offer to pay for the bulk of it. Thinking it would be a casual shower and cost $500-800.

Problems started coming up because we have no where to host it ourselves and need to rent a space for it. So we found a hotel nearby that has some beautiful outdoor spaces, which is what I wanted. The space rental isn't outrageous, except that we need to book an inside room too, in case it rains :-S. Then we started asking about food. I told DH we should have it in the afternoon and do heavy appetizers. The coordinator emailed him with a price estimate and it would basically cost $1k for the event spaces + cheese platters for 15 people, veggie platters for 15 people, and cakes/pastries for 30 people. No drinks. No real appetizers.

I would like to have been kept out of it and just told when to show up, but DH keeps needing my input. And I'm starting to feel like this is an insane idea. We're going to spend $1k for a party that has cheese, veggies and cookies? We could just put the $1k toward the rest of our baby stuff. DH really wants to have the shower though. But I can't figure out how to not spend an insane amount of money on next to nothing. If it was $1k and we got the event space plus tons of food and drink for 30+ people, I might think it was more worthwhile.

So I have no idea what to do. I want to be kept out of it, but DH is clueless. And we can't really talk to my friends about it because I feel like it's enough of a financial burden for them to get here.