I posted this over at WB a while back! What is your biggest pregnancy/childbirth fear? I know for everyone that all of the above is what you want to chose, but which one above all others (even marginally)?
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Definitely losing the baby. The farther along I got in my pregnancy with E the more terrified I was. I felt so attached and like the attachment was (obviously) only growing and that it would make losing the baby so much more difficult. Towards the end the anxiety about this was something I dealt with every day.
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Losing the baby, no contest.
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Losing the baby...since it's happened, it's only natural that I worry about it happening again.
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Losing the baby, obviously. The closer I get, the more I secretly wish they'd give me a section at 37 weeks - get her out quick and use medicine and technology to make sure she's ok! After that, they can do what they want with me.
I'm going to pick a second fear, too (coz surely everyone is going to say losing the baby). I'm scared I will go into labour while DH is away and he will miss it. I know he will never forgive himself and is liable to slump into a depression which will taint our first few months.
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@Cherrybee: I felt the same way. I was so relieved when my water broke and I was finally admitted because the heart rate monitors were on and I was able to just breathe and know that professionals were monitoring him. My mom and sister asked why I was so anxious as I got closer to my due date and I tried to explain this to them but they didn't get it at all.
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@Running Elley: @Cherrybee: Ditto. The closer I get, the more terrified I am that something will go wrong.
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Losing. I never thought about it with my first pregnancy that resulted in healthy LO. But since then I had a mc at 3 months and a chemical pregnancy. I feel so delicate!!
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Aside from losing the baby or the baby being born with some mental/physical defect I think i'm most scared of DH not being helpful.
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I was terrified of losing the baby. I'm not sure I ever really let myself believe she'd get here safely.
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Losing the baby was definitely my biggest fear. Followed by abnormal development.
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I chose abnormal development but then I realized that I missed "losing the baby" as an option. So I'd switch mine if I could. A loss terrifies me.
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A loss was my biggest fear, I was so scared of this. It happened to a friend of mine a year before, so the idea was always in the back of my head.
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I actually thought of one last night that's been really weighing on me - losing DH. For some reason I've had this just horribly irrational fear that he is going to get into a car accident or something and that LO won't have her daddy
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A loss is my biggest fear followed closely by abnormal development (health wise).
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hands down losing the baby, I didn't calm down until the monitors got strapped to my belly when I was in labor and everytime they took them off and put them back on I would be holding my breath until they found his heartbeat. I was a huge worrier during pregnancy, it was really unhealthy.
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I hope this doesn't sound awful, but I chose mental or physical development. To be honest I don't think I would be a good mother to a child with downs, or other severe delays. I don't have patience, and it would be hard knowing the child would be 100% dependent on me for the rest of my life. And after I'm gone, what happens? They go to a group home? I couldn't imagine.
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While I have some fears about dying, losing the baby, or development problems, I think the likelihood of these things happening is very slim.
So I picked other. Because what I really fear is hemorrhoids. And I think the likelihood of that is pretty large compared to the rest...
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I chose losing the baby. We had a mc before LO, and I had a really hard time relaxing during pregnancy. Strangely, I'm not scared at all of abnormal development. Not sure why.
@Bookworm: I have really had to fight my fears of losing DH since LO was born. It's definitely one of my biggest struggles.
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@Mrs. Pen: I'm the same. I have an intense fear of having a stillborn baby, followed closely with a developmental abnormality that I wouldn't be able to handle. I'm the least patient person I know.
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I worry about death in general, I think. Mr. T does an abnormally high amount of dangerous things, and if I stop to think about it it makes me really nervous. I was halfway convinced I was going to die when I had to have my second c-section. And I still worry about losing Lorelei or Ellie. I think it's just the way that the anxiety I've had all my life is cropping up now. I deal with it well, usually, but it is definitely there.
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My first pregnancy, I never thought about anything going wrong with the baby or during labor. I was TERRIFIED of getting fat forever though. I was just in this ignorant niaeve bliss lol. Now that I have DD the fear of something going wrong with the baby at any point will be my biggest fear for sure with #2.
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Because I've had a m/c, I am terrified of losing this baby. The first trimester was so hard, but honestly, it's still just as rough now. I'm nearly 20 weeks and I'm so attached now that I get so scared of losing him. If its been awhile since he's kicked, I'll be worried until I feel him again. I still feel anxious during the time between appointments even though I have a doppler. I'm afraid it will only get worse as we get further along.
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I think losing the baby would be anybody's biggest fear. As far as child birth goes, outside of something being wrong with me or her, it would be the pain and my inability to handle it.
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Developmental issues followed closely by losing the baby. There was a period (especially with our horrible pedi) that I REALLY worried about P's development (I don't think I ever posted here about it). For months I was in a devastated stated thinking about the things she would/could miss out on, etc. It was something that I knew would be there part of her life forever & it just broke my heart to even think about. Also know how I am as a mom & fearing that I wouldn't be able to really provide what was needed for a developmentally challenged child. (I am glad to say that while P is still a tad behind she's making great strides & her delays fall in line with her being SGA so she should catch up just fine).
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@Running Elley: this is exactly how I felt.. The further along I was, the scarier it got. SO didn't understand. He said we were past the scary part (1st tri). While I agree that losing a pregnancy is devastating no matter what, it would have been so traumatic for me to lose DD at the end. I was so crazy attached to her I was after feeling her kick and push inside of me for 5 months..
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Losing the baby. With my second, I was kind of affraid of dying during child birth only because I already had one child and I would irrationally think that I wouldn't get to see him grow up.
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@runsyellowlites: aww, hugs! I worried about E's development too. She has just taken a little longer to accomplish milestones but that's just who she is. Now that she is older, I see that she is very intelligent but takes her time/is cautious. It's her personality.
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Losing the baby followed by baby having some abnormality. My younger sister is disabled and I don't think I would cope.
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