Hubby's birthday and the of course, the holidays are fast approaching. I am now a SAHM and am thinking how awkward it will be to buy him gifts using 'his' money. What do other SAHM's do? Do you feel strange buying him gifts?
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Nope, I don't feel strange at all. As far as we're concerned "his" money is "our" money. Yes, he's the only one actually working for a paycheck, but only because I'm staying home with our son.
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When I was unemployed, so a "stay-at-home-wife", yes. I wouldn't feel at all guilty if I were a SAHM though, because you are still working and contributing.
I mean, if you weren't a SAHM, how much would you be spending on a nanny?
So you are financially contributing to the family, and his money is your money. No guilt there. -
It's not his money, it's our money! At first it was weird because he's officially the one working for the money and earning the paycheck, but I work in my own way and save us money by not having to put LO in daycare. I know longer feel bad about it, I feel like I earn my keep around here.
I take cash out a little bit at a time so he doesn't notice a big chunk leaving the bank leading up to the gift buying, or sometimes my parents will give me some cash so I'll use that.
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Thank you, ladies. I am having a hard time with it because I have always brought home a paycheck until our son came along, so this is foreign territory for me.
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Nope, I don't feel weird about it anymore...as pps have said, it's our money. I just tell him not to check the credit card statement until after I give him the gift
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I definitely wouldn't consider it his money, it's y'all's/you guys'/both of your money!
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My mom stayed at home, but my parents had equal allowances. I think that helped them not think of it as his money. That being said....I find it funny, even with a shared account! Tell him how you feel. Maybe you can work out a gift budget or something.
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