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Umm she's at her aunties house for a few days momma needed a break! haha kidding...we are having construction done so she needed to go somewhere, but man it's nice to get a break and I'm sure she is enjoying a change of pace so hopefully when she gets back she will have less tantrums. Wishful thinking? Probably.

I'm reading Happiest Toddler on the Block and waiting for a few more books to come in at the library so I can figure out how to minimize some of her tantrums, some days it gets SO bad.

She is almost 2.5 and we have 2-3 every week....ekkkk! I hate it when other people (family) are around because it makes me nervous and I hear a lot of advice I don't like.

Oh the tantrums./ They seem to be epic. She had one on Saturday evening because I wouldn't let her listen to Bruno Mars because it was dinner time. Does she think she's a teenager? This morning's tantrum was just because it was morning time. She throws and hits and goes limp. Right now we ignore tantrums unless she's acting out and trying to hit or throw. She hasn't had one out in public so we are pretty lucky but it's only a matter of time.

Tantrums seem to happen on a daily basis these days. This morning, she grabbed a pair of swim goggles out of the bathroom drawer and was happy playing with them for 30 seconds before something started bothering her. She wasn't happy with them on her head, with them in the drawer, with them out of the drawer... I tried to help her but she was frustrated with something and I couldn't figure out what. Perhaps she wanted them to levitate or something!

@lizzywiz: I just told my husband this morning during breakfast that I don't think I'm that great of a mom as far as discipline because I can't figure out how to get my son from standing up on the sofa. He discovered how to get up a few weeks ago, and now for the last week has been standing up and will NOT sit or get down. I've tried a bunch of things. I definitely hear you there, on the questioning thing!!

@Jenn23: if you figure the sofa thing, let me know. Mine crawls around the back of the sofa then belly flops onto the seats to push them onto the ground then climbs onto the arms and jumps off shrieking "weeeeeee". The funniest thing to her is me telling her "no"

@travelgirl1: @Jenn23: oh man! We have been going through a jumping on the couch phase for about 3 months now. We've tried redirection, sternly telling her no and that she will get a boo boo, modified time out where she has to sit on daddy's lap, nothing works! As soon as the "punishment" is over, she goes right back to the couch, laughs at us, and starts jumping again. Ugh!!

@Jenn23: @travelgirl1: I've never stopped her from jumping on the couch, but she knows she can only do it if I'm there to watch her. So after a few weeks she's completely stopped jumping on it since she knows its totally acceptable. Sometimes I think hearing no just drives them to do things more!

My 2 year old has had 2 epic tantrums around 18 months and occasionally she'll just start to cry and cry and cry and whine and won't tell me what's wrong. But I actually know a poor night of sleeping or missing a meal usually has a BIG BIG factor in her meltdowns. So when I know those 2 things contribute to her meltdowns I cut her a lot of slack and hold her and tell her I'll hug her until she feels okay.

My LO can have the tendency to fixate on an object - like bubbles. She wants to play with them all day. But they're only for outside (I hate cleaning up bubble solution on the floor) so once we're inside she'll whine for bubbles. I tell her she can go outside and play bubbles on the patio by herself or she can play with me in the living room. I think giving choices helps. Up till now she's always chosen the one I've engineered! LOL!

Definitely though, once the incident has passed and the consequence has been meted out it needs to not be rehashed. My husband has a hard time with this. If my LO spits out her food, he says, "no we don't do that - no more food for you". then takes it away. Then he lectures her. At that point, she's screaming no no daddy to him. I tell him taking away the food is her consequence. lecturing her gets you nowhere at this age, but he has a hard time processing that concept. I think that's why she responds to my disciplining better.

But I hate hearing I'm not disciplining enough. I think people assume redirection and no yelling equates to not enough or not disciplining.

@aegie: Your point about giving choices is great. I've really been trying to offer more choices, because I know that will help with the tantrums. I often just forget. Great point!!

@78h2o: Oh my gosh-that picture! haha Wait until you show her that someday.

@pinkcupcake: Oh the "right now" tantrums!!! I wish there was a hands up in the air, kill me now emoji. She wants yogurt/cereal/blueberries/bagel/milk/strawberries ALL NOW. I had to put her in the "calm down" chair so that she would stop yelling/crying. This morning was awful and i was so upset by how difficult she was being that i was pretty silent on the walk to the train station...sometimes you need a few minutes to collect yourself!

The other thing that's starting is the everything is "mine" tantrums. If i take away her plate, she goes nuts. If she sees something she likes she'll claim, "MINE" and will freak out if you tell her otherwise.

olive is 2 1/2 and she has pretty much been throwing a tantrum every day. usually it's in the morning because she doesn't want to wake up to go to school. we have to hurry out the door because of charlie. if she doesn't get her way, she immediately drops to the floor and starts rolling around.

luckily her tantrums typically aren't huge, but they are way way more frequent than charlie's ever was!

We're going through a weird phase of tantrums where LO wants Daddy's help only, not Mommy. He'll say "No Mommy" quite a bit. We've told him a number of times that it's not nice or it hurts feelings. Last night, he had a screaming tantrum because I wanted to help him with the learning tower. We waited through tears and screams until all of us helped move the tower to the sink for hand washing. Anyone else going through this? I'd love some solutions or redirects that work. We're thinking of maybe timing him out when he says it.

@lizzywiz: LO's got a definite daddy preference these days. I grapple with the rejection feeling from it. I know it's a phase, but it's a tough one. I just wish that this part of the phase would end.