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Choosing not to breastfeed from the beginning?

  1. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    @loveisstrange: I love everything you say...always

    @runnerd: Don't let anyone tell you that you're making the wrong choice or convince you one way or the other. I felt so much pressure to at least try to breastfeed, so I did for the first 3 weeks. I was absolutely miserable. I still felt a lot of pressure from a few people to continue pumping and get LO "just a little" breast milk, so I pumped until I went back to work. When I switched to formula, I couldn't have been happier with my choice and was kicking myself for not doing it sooner or even from the start. You have to do what is best for you and your family, and you don't have to justify your choice to anyone...you just need to be firm with it to those who try to tell you that you need to do something else.

  2. spaniellove

    honeydew / 7916 posts

    As someone who "just tried it" because of guilt, hormones, hospital pressure, etc - I fully believe that no one should be bullied into breastfeeding. When your heart is not in it and you don't want to be doing it but you have a room full of strangers debating your nipples and shoving your hours-old baby at your breast and he is screaming, breastfeeding goes from being "I tried it" to a traumatic experience.

    I was so relieved when a nurse offered to take him and give him some formula because he hadn't eaten anything, and even better when I told the LC I was going to stop trying to BF and just 100% FF. As she responded, breastfeeding is not worth it if it's causing you stress.

  3. autumnlove

    hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts


  4. sweetooth

    nectarine / 2705 posts

    @spaniellove: It really can be traumatic - I had way too many strangers grabbing my boobs. I am happy you have found what works for you and your sweet baby J.

  5. AmeliaBedilia

    nectarine / 2192 posts

    @LovelyPlum: This is genius!

  6. LovelyPlum

    eggplant / 11408 posts

    @AmeliaBedilia: thanks
    @spaniellove: good for you, lady!

  7. BlackLabLove

    apple seed / 1 posts

    I stumbled upon this post while researching FF vs BF and I can't say how happy I am that I did. Today was the first day I said out loud that I have no desire to BF. I am a FTM, expecting twins. Before we found out it was twins, I never really wanted to try, but felt the pressure of others and online boards to try it. Now that I know we're expecting twins, I just don't know how we could do it.

    The biggest part is help. We are going to need a lot of extra hands with twins (thankfully, my husband and I both have wonderful, willing families). If I BF, I am on my own. Sure, I could pump, etc. but I don't want to put myself through the stress.

    I am a natural worrier, and at times an anxiety filled person, and I want to have the most calm environment I can for our little one's. I know me, and I know that trying and not succeeding will just not be good.

    This post has been so helpful. I'm not sure if anyone will even see it, but I just wanted to say THANK YOU!

  8. Astro Bee

    pear / 1503 posts

    @BlackLabLove: First of all, congratulations on the upcoming birth of your twins; and also, welcome to Hello Bee. I'm glad you found the post helpful. There are so many helpful women (and a few men) on these boards. If you are anxious about how you will handle things, there are several twin moms on here that would be more than willing to share some of their experiences. I'm aware of some that FF and some that BF. But whichever you choose to do, know that you are still providing for your littles as best you can.

  9. alphagam84

    persimmon / 1095 posts

    @BlackLabLove: I'm not even planning to BF when my baby is born in a few weeks and just use formula from the get go. I feel no guilt and am completely at peace with my decision. You aren't alone!


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