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Could you pick up and move to a different state?

  1. farawayyama

    kiwi / 556 posts

    We plan to. DH is in grad school in a fairly specific field, so we will likely move when he is done. We'd love Washington or Oregon, but are more likely to end up in the south or southwest. We're in the Midwest right now. We've also toyed with England or back to Asia - Singapore, Taiwan or Hong Kong maybe? (We met living in Japan and there are opportunities there, plus I'm a teacher so could teach in an international school where DD could attend).

    I'm an expat Kiwi though, so moving within the US really doesn't seem like that big of a deal. We do hope to settle at some point though

  2. BKCaribBaby

    pear / 1672 posts

    Theoretically, we could, but that would require DH looking for a whole new career path. My career is pretty nichey, so I don’t really know what I would do if we moved since my professional network is primarily here. Our jobs are connected to where we are (most of the opportunities are in this part of the country for DH). We are not far from DH’s family although they never really care to see us. My friends are mostly here, and it’s easy to get to family and other from here. I wouldn’t mind moving abroad, but DH is not interested.

  3. Mrs. Lemon-Lime

    wonderful pea / 17279 posts

    Within reason Mr. Lime could pick up and move with his same organization doing the same job. I would have a harder time, but I am open to it.

  4. ShootingStar

    coconut / 8472 posts

    My career is in a relatively niche market - I can essentially work in Boston, Silicon Valley, NYC and Research Triangle (NC). I could maybe find a job in other large cities, but there would be less of a market for my field so I'd be kind of stuck in that job. DH can work in pretty much any major city.

    We tossed around the idea of moving to NC for the better weather, we even talked about moving to FL and me taking the hit with the job prospects because the cost of living would be so much lower than here in the Boston area. But it always seemed like such a logistics nightmare of finding jobs, selling our townhouse, etc. The move would also be far away from DH's family, and depending on if it was FL or NC it would be far from mine either all the year or half the year. And we wouldn't have friends in either place.

    So ultimately we back burnered the idea and bought a larger house in this area. Sometimes we wonder if we made the right decision (especially after this winter!) but I love our house and I like being near family.

  5. dolphin

    pomegranate / 3768 posts

    No, it would be too hard to leave my parents. They are SO close to DD.

  6. Baby Boy Mom

    pomegranate / 3983 posts

    Yes and we are definitely planning on it. Right now we are in an area with no support network and high cost of living so we will move as soon as the opportunity arises.

  7. kimbed

    grape / 84 posts

    Yes, and we plan to in the near future! Currently on the east coast and planning a move to Oregon as soon as I hear word if a potential new job is a go. It's terrifying and exciting, but something we've been wanting to do for a very long time. DH's family and my family are both in Oregon and we have been wanting to move closer to that support system. We decided that if one of us were to secure a job out there, we would go! We've both been with our current jobs for 10+ years so it's scary, but a sacrifice that we're willing to make.

  8. Ginabean3

    pomegranate / 3401 posts

    We could....DH is in finance and I'm a sahm....but I wouldn't want to! I don't even want to move out of our region (Southern California)....both of our families are here and as I've gotten older and started my family it's become really important to me to be near family. Plus, it's pretty diverse here which is nice too....I would be sad moving somewhere where me and DD were the only Asian people......

  9. edelweiss

    grapefruit / 4923 posts

    absolutely. we'd move to bay area in california in a heartbeat if the right jobs came along.

  10. .twist.

    pineapple / 12802 posts

    @lovehoneybee: Aren't you on your way to Canada? hmmmm?

    Not really. We like to be close to family. His 2 other children live with their mother here, which is a factor. Also, my job is not as easy to find elsewhere.

  11. lovehoneybee

    GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts

    @.twist.: Still a possibility, although there are a lot more factors to weigh now...but if I thought they'd build close to you guys that would be a major plus in the direction of moving

  12. MapleMoose

    grapefruit / 4213 posts

    We've moved to different states, once before kids and then after. It was definitely easier without babies! We are discussing moving again since this is our starter home plus DH and I are in transitional periods in our jobs, for different reasons. Tossing around staying in the same town because of family nearby, or moving to another state. We shall see! I'm excited.

  13. lady grey

    pear / 1696 posts

    @mrsjyw: yup! I just did this 4 months ago. We moved 3000 miles with one month notice. We moved closer to family so thats what made it feasible.

  14. Pepper

    pomelo / 5820 posts

    We are in the process of making this happen! It is definitely scary, but I think it's going to be an awesome adventure for all of us

  15. .twist.

    pineapple / 12802 posts

    @lovehoneybee: I'm pretty sure I read something somewhere... on a piece of paper... that it WILL be close to me. Just my expert opinion.

  16. lovehoneybee

    GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts

    @.twist.:

  17. erinpye

    pomegranate / 3706 posts

    Yep! DH's job is 100% remote, and so was mine before I sold it. If/ when I work again, it'll likely be me creating another business, and won't rely on location. We seriously considered moving to a couple of different states earlier this year.

  18. BoogieBea

    pomegranate / 3503 posts

    As long as it's to somewhere we would want to live then yup. We already live in separate states from our family.

  19. Mrs.Pinecone316

    persimmon / 1316 posts

    We are hoping to move to another state in the next year or so. My whole family is moving out of state one by one and where I live cost of living is so high and we could never afford the kind of home we want so we are trying to make that happen.

  20. FannyMae

    persimmon / 1461 posts

    Never say never and all.... but I could probably never. Heck, I can't even see myself moving out of my neighbourhood (to be fair I've been here for 30 years ) If I was a billionaire I would have homes in every amazing city of the world (and my mum's little village in Greece) and hop from one to the other following summer.

  21. Charm54

    cantaloupe / 6885 posts

    Dhs job is very fluid so we will likely be moving provinces at some point in the next 10 years. It will break my heart because I love my job (and won't easily be able to get it somewhere else), we live 2 min from my parents and they are SO close to DD. They will be crushed. But, c'est la vie. I feel fortunate to have lived in our home province with his type of work for as long as we have

  22. MrsRcCar

    grapefruit / 4712 posts

    I am a SAHM now and DH is looking to change career paths. We are nearly set to move away from all family support by June 1st.

  23. travellingbee

    hostess / papaya / 10219 posts

    I did when I was in my 20s. I moved from NY to Texas. But it would be much harder now. DH's job isn't easily changed and now all of our family moved here to be near us.

  24. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5257 posts

    Yup, I did just that about two years ago! It happened quick, too. I obviously knew DH was interviewing, but once he got the job, within about two weeks we had picked out a new apartment and were driving from the northeast to texas. Normally I don't even do that well with change, but for some reason I never hesitated. It just felt right, and I do love it here! I obviously had to leave my job, but I was very lucky to find a new one within two weeks of getting here.

  25. NavyRN2012

    persimmon / 1447 posts

    Yes- I have to. Every 3 years. We're coming up on our 2nd move since I joined the military and it's going to be challenging. We currently live 3.5 hours from family, so it's been nice. We're moving 13 hours from family, so we will see how it goes!

  26. MOMTOLITTLEB

    persimmon / 1188 posts

    We could probably both get jobs, I could keep the one I have now and work remotely. For us the hardest thing would be giving up the family support. Our parents help us a lot and are so close to our son. I'd love to live somewhere warmer but I don't think it will happen!

  27. purrpletulips

    pomegranate / 3414 posts

    @mrsjyw: We just did this in August. DH and I had tossed around the idea but my requirement was that one of us had to have a job before we made the move. He was an IT contractor who got offered a permanent job with the company he was contracting with which required relocation to Virginia (from Ohio). I was lucky that my current employer allowed me to work remote (first time they allowed this). However, after working from home for 6 months I just accepted a full time job locally. It was a lot to take on but being able to work remotely allowed for us to focus on the kids (DD 5y, DS 2.5y) during the transition.

  28. Alivoo01

    wonderful olive / 19353 posts

    I think so! DH and I dream about moving to one of our fantasy states all the time. DS is still young so hasn't gotten attached to a particular school district or friends yet. We also don't live near family so that won't be holding us back.

  29. NovBaby1112

    grapefruit / 4066 posts

    I would LOVE to move someplace warmer like NC. I've brought it up to DH before but he says we should retire someplace warm and just stay here (Boston area) for now due to his job. I could easily find another job someplace else, but DH's family is also here, so it would be harder to leave them.

  30. BlueWolverine

    pear / 1510 posts

    I've done it a few times (MI, IL, NY, TX). Never since being married, though. DH's job is completely portable; mine not so much. I would move back to my home state if the right job opened up...but it would be really hard leaving our village here.

  31. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    I am 4 months into it, so yes! Since we both wanted to keep working, it took years to finally make it happen. So far it has been worth the struggle since we are closer to family and in a much better financial position, but thecomments aboutrebuilding a village hit home because this is our biggest challenge right now. We don't have a lot of friends (yet) and since DH is remote, he will go days without talking to another person (other than me). I know this will change once the weather improves and people are more social, but it has been a challenge.

    Not that we had much choice at the end of the day, but I would recommend moving in the spring! We moved after thanksgiving and it's been 3.5 months of straight cold, dark, rainy weather. Not very conducive to meeting neighbors and finding our way around!

  32. Ree723

    grapefruit / 4819 posts

    Yep! Of course we've moved countries a few times now, on three different continents, so the thought of just moving cross country seems like a piece of cake comparatively. DH and I both have careers that are in demand everywhere (once I return to work that is) and we're always going to have family on at least two different continents anyway, so it wouldn't be that big of a deal to move again.

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