We did! My mom knew but she told her friends I had a roommate!
Did you live with DH before marriage?
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Haha nope! Might be tmi but we waited until our wedding night too!
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We did for three months after graduate school when my lease was up. I swore I wouldn't, but I did, and I'm glad for it.
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yes and no. Technically I didn't live with my husband before we got married, I was still living with my parents, buuuuttt I stayed over there 5-6 nights of the week
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I moved in with him after just dating for five months. I was terrified to tell my mom, but she said she was happy for me and truly was.
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we did - for about 4 years. My mom knew, my dad didn't (they are divorced). In some ways, i wish we hadn't...but it didn't really change anything in the end.
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We did for about 2 years - it was a great decision for us. It's very common where I live, but my grandma still referred to DH as my "friend" until our wedding day! lol
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We got engaged on the final walk through the night before we closed on our house!
We lived together for about a year before our wedding date
My parents are old school, but totally okay with it because we were engaged. LOL.
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we lived together for about 3 years before we got married.
@MrsBrewer: that's cool that your parents were okay with you staying over with him so much! while my parents were fine with me living with my husband before marriage, i can almost guarantee they would have not let me stay with him if i were still technically living with them! kind of the thing where "if you stay in our house, our rules apply", i think.
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Nope. I lived with a friend the year we were engaged and I wouldn't have changed it. I was almost 22 when we got married, so I'm glad I lived with friends throughout college and the year after.
I know our parents would NOT have been okay with it.
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No, we didn't because of our religious beliefs, though it would have been much more convenient! I moved to DH's town 2 months before our wedding, so I moved into his house, and he stayed with a friend. I know we're the minority on this one and all our friends thought we were crazy, but I'm glad we stuck to our guns.
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@edelweiss: Well the reason I still technically lived with them is because of DH's family. They are VERY traditional, and they would not have allowed us to live together. Where as my family wanted me out!! hahahaha jk....but they really didn't care either way. They knew we were going to get married, we were together for over 4 years at the time. But yea, so I still lived at home so his family thought that.
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Yup, we had lived together for just over a year when he proposed.
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Yes. We moved in with each other after dating for a year--with no plans for marriage at the time. We got engaged a year after that.
We both believe in living together before marriage or even entertaining the thought of marriage because we feel like you learn more about the person's quirks and habits when you live together.
My dad said the classic line, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" And I told him, "Have you ever bought a car without taking it for a test drive?" That shut him up.
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@mrsjazz: haha i love it! the car analogy is a great one.
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we did for just over a year before we were married. my parents don't care, his parents are much more traditional and didn't like that we were living together and didn't have more of a 'commitment'(we weren't engaged until about 3 months after we moved in together). but DH wouldn't propose until we lived together to see if we could handle each other lol
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Yup and bought a house together! I'm really glad we did
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@mrsjazz: so funny!
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We did. We moved in a few months before we got engaged, a little over a year before we got married. We'd been together for ages before that-- over 6 years-- so we were already planning on getting married and the timing worked out that it was better to move in before we ended up getting engaged.
My parents weren't happy about it, but not terribly surprised either. We didn't tell my extended family because my grandmother would have been extremely upset. I'm glad we did, but I don't feel strongly that people should or shouldn't either way. -
@mrsjazz: Agreed and omg too funny on the test drive!!!
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yes but we were engaged. we lived together for about 5 1/2 months before getting married.
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Yes, we lived together for about three years before becoming engaged, and then another year before we got married.
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We did at the suggestion of my mom(!) out of all people! My mom is a total traditional lady so when she suggested it, I about died. Even up to the day we were moving into the place, I was waiting for her to be like WTF are y'all doing?!
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Yepp. We lived together for about a year before getting engaged and then another 6 months before we got married.
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We lived together for 5 years before we got married, off and on. When I moved back to Maryland, I moved in with my parents for a while until they sold their house. Then, I moved in with dh until I moved to NC for my new job. He moved down 6 months later and we lived together from then on.
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We lived together for a year before we got engaged, and then we were engaged for a year before we got married.
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Yes, we were crazy and bought a house together when we were just dating. We were engaged 2 months later, and then married a year later. Looking back I can't believe I did that, I always said I wouldn't move in with a guy unless we were engaged...and I go and buy a house with one
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We did. We actually moved in together after a year of dating. Another year later we moved from MA to the NYC area.
I think living together beforehand is a good idea - allows you to learn about each other's living habits and styles and gets those stupid arguments out of the way too. However, I am strongly against buying real estate without being married (that's the attorney in me...)
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Yep, only for like 3 months. My lease was up on my apartment so I just moved into his condo with him. My parents were ok with it cause we were engaged even though they would have rather we waited till married.
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Technically no, but some stuff happened 2 months before our wedding and I basically lived with him, I just hadn't moved all my stuff.
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We moved in together maybe a couple of weeks before our civil wedding, which was about 5 months before our "real" religious wedding. (They're two different things here.)
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We lived together for... 3 years (?) before we got married. The first two years of our relationship we lived in the dorms, but spent pretty much every night together, so we practically lived together for all 5 years of our dating/engagement, lol.
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We lived together once we were engaged because I had just graduated and he moved with me to a new city. My dad wasn't very happy about it, but he got over it. I think it was a smart decision because we worked out alot of our cohabitation issues before we got married. I definitely don't regret it.
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we moved in together after dating for 3 years in Nov. 2008 and we were engaged maybe 6 months after living together. we bought our house 6 months later and we were married Aug 2010.
time flies! I'm very glad that i lived with my hubs before we were married. i prefer gradual changes and i dont think i would have adjusted as well otherwise. Also in my husbands mind i know he was a lot more "sure" of the relationship having lived with me and made it easier for him to make the decision to propose. He's not really one to take risks.
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Yup, and we bought a condo together before even getting engaged. Like MrsJazz, I'm a big believer in the "test drive first" theory before making lifetime commitments!
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No not even one day. We bought a house while engaged and he moved in his stuff slowly. He didn't sleep over once until the wedding.
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nope...i lived with my parents when we started dating...about 5 years 3 or 4 years into dating i moved out with my sister, it was a great experiance...i was independent and wanted to know what living on my own was all about and to really find myself before i lived with a boy, about two years after that we got engaged and married, we didnt live together until after we got married...we were buying a condo at the same time we were getting married and it didnt close until almost 3 weeks to close and then thats when we started to live together...
part of me thinks its a little old school tradition in me, as being hispanic and living with a boy isnt always accepted if you are not married and then the other part of me thinks it was my personal choice and i am happy with my choice...
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I've actually never not lived with DH! We met because he moved in with me. I was housemates with his best friend from Jr High (J) and J's live-in girlfriend. DH had had a really messy breakup 6 or so months prior, and decided he needed a fresh start in a new city. He needed a place to stay, we had a newly vacant room, the rest is history.
J is still one of our best friends...he's not with that girlfriend anymore, but his FI was my MOH, and he played our processional music.
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Yep. We lived together for a little over a year before we got married.
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Nope. We moved in together right after our honeymoon. We're old school i guess.
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