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I put up a post after we found out the sex at 20 weeks. Everyone I'm close to already knew but it was nice to tell others as well.

I did. I don't have a ton of Facebook friends (I do a yearly purge so that the only people that are on Facebook are people whose lives I ACTUALLY care about) and don't have like... work people or randos on there. I wanted to announce because I do post status updates regularly (like, a couple a month) and I figured at some point I'd want to post something about pregnancy. Not overshare type stuff... but it IS a big part of my life right now so it is natural I'd mention it (or get tagged in pics). So just announcing it made more sense to me than casually mentioning it and getting all the "OMG I DIDN"T KNOW!" type comments (not that there was a ton of people on there who didn't already know by the time I announced.. but at least a handful of people who I don't talk to regularly enough to have told).

We did at 13 weeks. I guess I just wanted to. I wanted my chance to announce.

I only have 100 friends on FB and I'd say 70 of them already knew I was pregnant before I posted anything.

Yes. At 20 weeks.

I didn't - which my mother in law still doesn't understand but she is a total oversharer. The reason I didn't is because we had an almost 2 year battle with infertility (conceived through IVF) and I remember how much pain it caused me to see those pregnancy announcements. I didn't want to cause someone else that same pain. A lot of times you don't know what people are going through. Also, I've had a high risk pregnancy and had a lot of highs and lows in that first trimester. I didn't want a lot of questions from people that I may not be close to right now. I figure whoever we wanted to know we were pregnant, we told in person or over the phone. I'm also not a big poster on facebook anyways.

We will announce the birth on facebook - there's kind of no way around that one. I think my mother in law would kill us if we didn't do that. We do have a strict rule that she is not to post about our baby unless we do first.

@Mrs tartan: I voted no for the same reasons as you, I just don't post much on FB. PLUS after going through an IF battle I am sensitive to others who might be going through it. I will tell the people that I want to know individually and the rest can hear it through old fashioned word of mouth.

@justdarling:

We decided that we aren't going to do any kind of announcement or whatever on FB. We'll tell our family and close friends, and will let the word filter out that way.

For what it's worth, we also decided that we won't be sharing pictures of our child on social media.

I announced my first on FB because my BIL had already outed us in a status a day before. I was pretty annoyed and figured I should go ahead and announce. I don't know if I'd share on FB again...

I am still undecided but leaning towards yes; b/c we have a lot and a lot of acquaintances that will probably want to know but we won't be able to literally contact everyone to let them know (like, whole church-ful of people). If we do it, it'd be when we find out the gender.

Yes I did at 15 weeks, I was excited and wanted to be the one to announce not someone else

No, it felt too personal. I did make a quick photo/announcement when LO was born, though, it was fun to see the surprised reactions! Neither of us has really put pictures of LO on FB since then, and I only rarely talk about him in my status updates. I guess I feel like his online presence is his to decide, not mine.

Yep, we told friends and family in person and then posted some pictures around 13-14 weeks. I've been posting a weekly bump picture too.

I've also edited my friend lists many times though. I'm pretty comfortable with those who I am connected to.

We did after we found out what we were having. Still undecided if we will do it this time though.

We did, but not until we were about 6 or 7 months along. We also did it pretty subtly. I posted a photo of the two of us on vacation and the caption said something like "Family photo. If you look closely, there are 3 people pictured." Even though we didn't make a big deal about it, I actually ended up being really touched by responses from some people I'm not in frequent contact with who I never expected to care/notice.

Yes. I'm a B about denying FB requests so everyone on my list is a friend/family. Albeit some are far away and we don't talk often but none I consider an acquaintance.

@mrsrain: do you mind sharing how you did this? If I get pregnant, I probably won't share on FB, but would send an email to family and close friends. I want to share that this has been hard, but I don't want to be melodramatic sounding about it.

I did. I was excited! I told strangers at the grocery store checkout or at Subway... why not facebook?! And it was fun to connect with old friends who happened to be pregnant around the same time who I wouldn't be connecting with again otherwise. No regrets.

@justdarling: @happygal: @sweetiepie:

@mrsrain: this is pretty much what we did, too. I wanted to celebrate, but I could not stand the thought of it hurting someone else the way other announcements had hurt me. So we announced at 25 weeks, on the (Catholic) feast of the Holy Family, December 27, and said that we were overjoyed to share that a baby would be joining us in April. I said it had been a long road, and that we were grateful for the support that had gotten us to this point. And to all our friends still on their journey, know you're not alone.