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@Mrs. Lion: Truthfully, it is easier to go than get the guilt from certain people for not going. And, it's not like we don't have a great time and enjoy our families and their traditions. There may come a year where we do say we just can't financially swing a trip and stay home. We did miss one year - but we were overseas at the time.
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I have an issue with you being stuck on dish duty while your husband socializes. Why do they feel it is ok to make your clean while he has fun? That s**t wouldn't fly with me, I'd tell my husband to join me in cleaning up and then we would both socialize. No way would I be willing to clean up like some peasant.
Your husband needs to have a talk with his own mother about the holidays and how to handle in the future. You should start taking turns: one year at your house and the next year at theirs. If she can't agree, then it is her loss and won't see you that year. You could also go over to a relatives for a short period of time, like for breakfast or dinner, etc. and not stay long. When I was little we did Christmas Eve with my dad's side, Christmas morning and lunch with my parents and sister, then went to my mom's side for dinner. It worked well! For other family, like 2nd cousins, etc. we'd have a Christmas celebration a week or two before the actual holiday.
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This will be our first holiday season with our LO (he's due right before Thanksgiving!). DH's family live 10 mins away, and mine are 30 mins away.
Don't think we'll be going anywhere for Thanksgiving this year. I don't have any particular attachment to Thanksgiving except for the copious amounts of food (which I don't want to cook) so I'm fine going to our families' home. But for Christmas, I would really like to start our own traditions now that we'll have a LO. Not sure how this will work moving forward!
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For the past several years, we have done Christmas at our house, with everyone invited. Usually my parents don't come (they go out of town), but my husband's family does. I love planning everything, but it is a little stressful to have everyone over in our tiny house.
As for thanksgiving, we have two: one at my parents' and one at my IL's. That way I don't have to make a turkey and we both get to experience it how it was growing up.
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So I am personally over it. We are doing holidays just us! We haaate holidays and all the pressure and craziness. Last year we ended up driving home in a snowstorm in the middle of the night because we were having such a crap time, so we then decided we were doing our own thing from that moment on.
We gotta do what's right for us.
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Christmas Eve is at my parent's house, the Saturday before Christmas is at the in laws, Christmas morning is our family time. Then we head to my grandma's for lunch and his dad's side for dinner. I have our morning where Santa comes and I make a nice breakfast, I like spending it with family. It's a lot but it's worth it for my kids to grow up with their extended family.
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We go to our family's holidays. Both our families live 3 hours away from us.
This past year, I was too pregnant to go in for Christmas. And honestly? It. Sucked. I will never complain about travelling constantly. One day my parents and aunts and uncles won't be here - and I WONT get the opportunity to celebrate with them.
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Both families live really far away. Mine live a 5 hr plane ride and DH's lives in Europe. We usually spend Thanksgiving with some close friends. We love them and are happy that we are invited every year to their family celebration.
We have been going to see my parents every other year, and MIL comes to visit us on the off years. I really wish my family would come visit us one year. I don't know how to break it to my mom that we aren't planning to come back this year even though it's "her year". DH is tired of going in the winter and I would much rather go in the summer as well.
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My DHs parents have never asked us to come for thanksgiving, so that is easy (even before he met me my husband didn't go home for it bc he thinks it is a dumb holiday and too short a weekend to travel for). We used to go to my parents every year but 2 years ago they started coming to our house and it is awesome. They come a day or two ahead and my mom cooks and we get to be in our own home. (its just my parents, us, and my brother/sil)
Christmas we've always gone to my parents or dh's mom. We do "our" christmas the day before we leave for traveling. I do feel strongly that I want my LO to wake up in her own bed for christmas morning-- but I don't care so much before she has a possibility of remembering. This year we will go to my parents. I'm hoping by next year my parents will live in our city and we can just have them over while we open gifts then my mom can do dinner if she wants at her house. I don't know what we'll do about dh's family. he's said we're done going to see his mom for a long time bc its too hard to travel now with LO and she doesn't really have room for us all-- but I don't know if that will fly forever.
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