Hard to think of circumstances under which I'd stop by a friend's house without checking with them first!
Do you ever drop in on a friend's house unannounced?
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Nope!
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never~ unless it's to drop off something at their door!
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Depends on the friend but some of them yes.
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Nope! With technology nowadays, how hard is it to call or text?!
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@blackbird: ditto! Years ago I would have but now will cell phones I would always call or text!
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Not anymore! In the college days of roommates definitely!
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Never!!!
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No way! I hate when people do that beacuse I never feel like our house is clean enough for guests when people just drop in.
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No, because I *hate* when people do it to me.
The only person I've ever dropped by on like that is my dad because he'd never ever answer his phone. He's learned to text though so now we text beforehand.
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Never. I think it's completely rude.
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No. But I do drop by my parents unannounced. Its hard not to when their like 10 feet away. I can tell it stresses them out though so im trying to stop
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No, definitely not. That's like my worst nightmare if someone were to do that at our house (it's always messy and full of dog hair) so I would never do it to someone else!
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Nope. It happens to us all the time and I hate it.
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No, I definitely at least call 5 minutes before, and I would only leave such short notice if I am only picking something up from them/dropping something off and not actually coming in to their house.
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@MrsKoala: Agree, it's very rude! My ex-BFF did that to me TWICE and once was RIGHT after I had brought Xander home after giving birth. I'm STILL mad at her for it (9 months later)!
So I would NEVER stop by a friend's house (or anyone's) unannounced!
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Nope! Never.
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What's "unannounced"? I've been out and about and texted a friend asking if I could drop by if I'm in their neighborhood. I totally understand if the answer is "no", though!
It happened to us pretty frequently growing up, and my parents never seemed to bat an eye at it. It never really struck me as rude.
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No, never!
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Never! If someone did that to me, I'd kill them.
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Never! I would text first.
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@LovelyPlum: I would say "unannounced" is showing up without texting/calling beforehand!
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@LovelyPlum: how much of a heads up we talking about... 5 minutes or an hour?
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@mrbee: depends? Usually at least 15 minutes. But like I said, if they said, this is a really bad time, I would say no big deal. I would never expect someone to rearrange their plans for me.
I don't know, coming over unannounced was not a big deal growing up. I can understand how some people wouldn't like it, but my grandmas/parents' friends/friends came over with very little notice all the time. Our house had a very open door policy, and it was fun
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@LovelyPlum: my mom's house is the same way.
Huge family, open door policy. My mom always had people in/out and we had friends stop by all the time and our friends still come and just hang out with my parents. In their house? No big deal at all!I don't do it though. No. I do it to my parents, just no one else. My mil maybe? I will usually say, I'm coming over today, maybe after naptime but don't so specify.
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@LovelyPlum: I would probably spend that 15 minutes cleaning before you got here!
I guess only the person whose place you're stopping by can tell you if they mind or not! I didn't grow up that way, so it would be an adjustment for me...
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I don't stop over friends places unannounced.
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Never!
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Never. I may text to see if I can drop by on short notice though.
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I don't even stop by my mom's house unannounced!
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Never.
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No way. Although sometimes I will drop off a treat or something... but I leave it in the mailbox or hang it on the front door. And I text them afterward
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No, I always text! I do stop by my BFF's parent's house unannounced though, I will drive by on my way to my parents house and if I see them outside or home I"ll swing in and say hi. They get mad if I don't
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@mrbee: LOL, well part of the "rules" for dropping by was that my mother did not clean for unannounced guests. You got what you got.
Also, it's totally fair that not everyone is comfortable with it. I would never want to impose on anyone. DH didn't grow up that way, either, and sometimes, he will balk at the suggestion of seeing someone on short notice. That being said, I do enjoy impromptu visitors at our house, so feel free to come by our house anytime!@TurtleDoves: there is a part of me that wonders if it can come as part of the territory of having a large family. Plus, I think my parents liked to know what we were all up to, so they would much rather have our friends come over, even on short notice, than us leave. My sister's boyfriend actually flew in for Thanksgiving, and only my mom knew he was coming. He showed up just as we were about to sit down and eat, but everyone was so excited to see him. We just pulled up another chair and moved over!
But to each his/her own. It doesn't bug me that some people aren't comfortable with it
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@rahlyrah: LOL, I am pretty sure that if I called ahead to tell my dad I was coming over, he would say, "well, what are you wasting time calling me for? Just come over." So funny how different families work!
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I don't do it, but some of DH's friends, neighbours and family do it to us often. It ticks me off, especially when we're in the middle of eating a meal or doing something and he has to go outside to chat. He knows that when we have kids, especially when they're older, meal-time WILL be family time and I will not put up with him leaving the table.
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No. Unfortunately my parents used to drop by unannounced. Even worse they would take my sister's spare key and let themselves in without ringing the doorbell. Gah!!
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Nope! It's always pre-arranged. If I need to stop by, I always text/call to see when a convenient time for them is.
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never
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@rahlyrah: Neither do I! But part of the reason is because it would be an hour drive and they're busy people so I'd hate to show up and have them not even be home! Plus my mom likes her house clean for guests, so she'd be embarrassed and annoyed if I just showed up and she hadn't cleaned!
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