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I'm starting to feel like that, but of course our baby isn't here yet. We're one of the first to have kids (we were one of the firs to get married), and my friend that has a baby girl is several hours away. I know life is going to change a lot once baby J is here, and I hope that someone hurries up and has a kid so I am not alone! We're totally in a different place than some of our friends.

I can definitely relate to this. Most of my good friends are around 30, but don't have kids and won't any time soon. One of them has been inviting me to do a lot of things lately and wanting to see M again so DH and I brought her to a memorial day BBQ. After the initial greetings my whole group of high school friends were back to talking about bars and guys and who knows what for the rest of the evening. DH, M and I sat with some people I hadn't met before because they were interested in playing with the baby. I know they'll understand some day, but I felt like we were on different planets that day It's not easy to change all the naps around and lug the baby to a BBQ and blah blah blah... they could have made a little more of an effort to interact with us.

On a happy note, one of the girls from this group who couldn't make it to the BBQ came to my house a few days later and sat on the floor with M and played with her and me for over an hour. She doesn't have kids but she was able to make me feel like I still fit in her world. It was so nice

I feel like this a lot and I wonder how it will be when LO gets here. I'm "young" (almost 24), so most of my friends don't have kids yet.

I think I'm pretty lucky though because one of my friends is getting married next March and she is a lot like me....done with partying and prefers low key stuff. They will probably TTC within a year of their wedding. Even now, she is super supportive and she can't wait for my son to be here. Her and I stick together a lot because most of our friends are still into the partying stage.

I feel like it will soon. All our BFFs from our home town three hours away are no where near even getting married and we just gt a bfp last week.

Luckily all our new friends in our new town have kids, but it will be a hard adjustment I think.

I made new friends! Lol. Seriously, though, aside from the ones that work with children and therefore "get" babies...I have sort of let a lot of friendships fall by the wayside... They just don't get it, and I don't think they are supposed to. But at the same time we just simply don't have a lot to say to each other since I have had to let some other parts of myself fall by the wayside too...

Totally! We went to a BBQ for a friends birthday the other day and we are they only ones with kids. Everyone loves LO and gives her so much attention but I felt a little left out. They were all pretty drunk and talking about being drunk and it's just so worlds away from where I am.

Luckily I also have my mummy friends and I know my friendships with my non mummy friends will catch up when they're in that place.

We moved to a new state when LO was around 6 mos old. Very few of my friends had children, and the one who did kind of went her own way long before I had LO (we were totally not partiers, so it wasn't like she was ever excluded, but she did quit responding to emails and calls, so eventually we just gave up).

I think starting out in a new place is a huge opportunity. But you have to give it time and make an effort. I'm not very extroverted, but I sucked it up and politely introduced myself to anyone whose child LO started to show any interest in, especially if we were at a place I liked to go. Half the county must have my phone number by now! LO is nearing three and I have two good friends now (we all have children who are the same age). That's the 'happy ending', but a year ago I felt really isolated because I had basically no one besides DH and LO to talk to (good thing I love those goobers!). I'm not even sure anyone else here knew my name!

As for friends from my pre-baby life, I keep in touch the best with those who write letters. I love getting mail on pretty stationary and I make time to do that for them, too. I feel like pen and paper neutralize the fact that we lead differently scheduled lives, and - importantly - conceal the interruptions. I may have to wipe a bottom or make a snack while 'hanging out' with my friend, but she doesn't have to feel left out in a letter.

@blackbird: This is true for me too, I'll go have dinner and hang out with my best friends from HS (none of whom have kids yet or are married) once every two or three weeks while DH stays at home with LO, and it's nice getting a chance to catch up and, like you sad, not be in mom mode for a few hours. When I'm hanging out with other moms it seems like our kids are all we talk about, so it's nice to break out of that pattern occasionally. And sometimes they come over here and they're always very excited to see LO.

Generally speaking, as long as the two of you can be excited for each other and show interest in what's going on in the other's life (and isn't that pretty much the point of being friends?) I don't see it being an issue.