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my last appt was about 5 minutes. doppler, any questions (which i don't have because i'm on google obsessively), and that's it. my husband came too, thinking we'd have an ultrasound, but alas no. i think he was disappointed. i was too!

i find that if i am put on the spot to ask questions, i forget all of them, so i try to write them down and any possible follow-up questions that i have related to the original question.

@PurpleUnicorn: I think part of the disconnect comes from the fact that for us everything is new and interesting but for our doctors all of these things are really routine so they can kind of go on auto pilot.

I think my appointments go by pretty quickly for the most part. I usually spend more time in the waiting room than with the doctor.

I get this feeling from my doctor too. I am a little worried that if she tries to rush me through my questions now, what's going to happen when I go through L&D? I've actually thought about switching doctors...

All of mine were super fast up until the last few where she tried to turn her.

I feel the same way. I do feel open to ask all my questions thought. So, iif they're not worried, I'm not worrying myself. I think I was there for 20 min last time, 15 of which were spent waiting in the lobby! LOL

I have a very social doctor, she always wants to sit and chit chat with us about everything and I love that. However we know her personally as well so I think that makes a little difference. She is truely interested in names we have picked out and how we are decorating the nursery and so forth! Makes me 100x more comfortable!

I have a midwife and had an OB for my first, and it's honestly the same thing. It was really annoying to me with my first because I had a 2.5 hour round trip drive to get to the doctor's, I'd spend 20 minutes in the waiting room, then pee in a cup, listen to the heartbeat, and be out in five minutes.

But, really, unless anything is wrong, a doctor's appointment should be short. I think before my first pregnancy, I thought there would be a lot more pants off and conversation, but I guess it's not really necessary as long as everything looks good.

My husband and I always joke when we watch "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" and they act like it's AMAZING that the baby survived with no prenatal care: "Oh my God! How did the baby survive when her mother didn't pee in a cup and get her blood pressure tested once a month???"

I think most doctors are like that. I have rarely ever met a doctor who really cared to answer my questions in depth so I guess I'm just used to it. It doesn't mean that it's right but great doctors are rare.

I think I just anticipated them and had them built up in my head so much, that they always seem to go by too quick and feel mildly disappointing. But, like others have said, it's just regular day-to-day stuff for these doctor's offices and they will never be as excited or perky as we are.

Mine have been super quick too...but she doesn't rush me with my list of questions that I'll bring either.

Although the appointments are not long, I haven't felt rushed by either the midwife or OB. I've seen two midwives and they were both great and answered any questions, asked a lot of questions, told me what I can expect, etc. I only saw the OB once and I think she was even more thorough than the midwives! I have had spotting throughout the pregnancy though, so perhaps because it's a little more unusual they spend a little extra time to make sure things are ok.