Sorry, long and a little disjointed.

Our big one is my stepbrother. He's an arrogant, egotistical asshole of epic douchebaggery proportions. He is in the process of getting divorced, and informed my SIL (who has been one of my BFFs for over a decade...I've pretty much disowned stepbrother and adopted her as my sister) on Mother's Day...which was a few days before her birthday, as well as her college graduation (she'd been slowly working on her degree for over a decade), for which she was throwing herself a huge graduation party that all of her family flew up to attend. He then talked his bosses into letting him transfer to NOLA, across the country from his girls.

His priorities in life have always been 1) His job 2) His girls 3) His car (not a particular car-he usually gets a new one every year or so), then 4) SIL.

He's since moved back because he missed the girls, but is weirdly jealous and competitive with DH. We were living with SIL and the girls for a bit while we settled in the area (and to help SIL), and stepbrother would do things like tell our nieces that he could run faster than DH (who has been a runner all of his life) and that our (very timid) cat was super aggressive. He also purposely screwed us out of renting a house down the block from SIL and the girls, because it would have made SIL happy to have me near, and he didn't want the girls getting any closer to DH (because he's jealous that they love DH so much).

Their divorce is almost finalized, and it's for sure the best thing for everyone involved. It would have been finalized sooner except that he directed his lawyer to try to get him part of her trust (which she can't even touch until she's 40).

And all of this is just the tip of the iceberg. I truly can't stand him, and DH pretty much constantly wants to punch him.

We went to my niece's soccer game the other day (he's the coach) and SIL deposited DS into his arms. He awkwardly held him for a few seconds while DH and I stood fuming, but not wanting to say anything because the girls were there. He handed him back to me almost right away, saying he was "bad with babies" (or he could feel our icy glares). We waited until SIL was alone and told her we didn't want stepbrother ever holding DS again. Or spending any time with him.

Sigh. It makes me sad because of all of my siblings/stepsiblings on paper he's the one I should along with the best. Same religious/political views, similar tastes in music, movies and books, etc. But I want to kick him, constantly. But I don't, I'm polite because I adore his girls, and they're still his daughters, and I know how hard it was for me growing up when people would badmouth my mother (my dad, stepmom, dad's family, etc). But I definitely don't want my son around him if I can avoid it.

Is there anyone in your life you don't want your LO to be around?