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I have asked my mom to front me money for a few things and then when the time comes she wont let me pay her back

Kind of.

We don't ask for our expect anything but my parents are very generous with gifts and vacations. FIL had started disbursing his estate for tax reasons so we have received some cash. It goes directly into savings, education funds, or home repairs.

We definitely love within our means, but appreciate the extras that family generosity allow for every now and then.

Our families do not help us financially.

Mr. Lime has given his mom money since we have been married; I have done the same for my dad. Mr. Lime gave his extra car to his brother for free. We even paid for the routine maintenance & surprise repairs right before handing over the keys.

Nope but we have given because we'll never get that money back. We try to give when we can but both our families are a little expecting when it comes to giving help.

Not a thing. I wouldn't take anything even if it was offered, I can take care of myself jsut fine and don't need the strings that would come attached.

Nope

My parents give us and M very generous monetary gifts, because they want to and also to help disperse their funds.

My parents paid for my college education. They also gave us a generous wedding gift that covered more than the cost of their guests. And now they watch our son (their first grandchild) two afternoons per week, which shaves 20% off the cost of childcare for us.

DH and I are extremely careful with our money, both being in finance/accounting fields, and have never really needed assistance from our parents since graduating/getting married. We both had our full schooling paid for (even DH's masters) and my parents paid for most of our wedding. Not having student debt has allowed us to be able to afford our own down payments, etc, that we may not have been able to otherwise.

However, both of us have sisters and both of our sisters are less financially stable. Both of our parents help out our sisters in ways they don't help us. Gas, car insurance, flights home for holidays when they don't buy us flights, etc. It's a little annoying that just because we're super responsible and always saving / working hard on our home business and becoming financially stable on our own that we don't get some of those "perks". I know my parents could afford to pay for our flights, too, but know they don't have to with us. And DH's sister bought a car WAYYYYY too expensive for her level of income, so she can't afford to pay for the insurance on it, and her parents cover it. We have cars that are much less expensive than hers (and much less nice) but we pay for them AND the insurance on them (and gas, maintenance, new tires, etc, which she doesn't).

I don't mean to sound bitter, i'm glad we're financially independent. Just a little annoying sometimes

my dad bought us a new washing machine when ours bit the dust a couple of months ago. We really couldn't affoed to replace it and he graciously offered. And that's the only time we've ever been helped financially by family.

My husband and I are both financially comfortable and have been since before we met, so we don't receive help from our parents. Other than my parents paying for my wedding dress and his parents paying for the rehearsal dinner (they both wanted to because it's tradition, but it wasn't necessary), we paid for our own wedding. Same goes for car and housing cost. If I stretch way back, my parents paid for a few flights home during college.

We do help my ILs out a lot financially, however, with large interest-free loans. I also gave them my car when I bought a new one this fall. I've also helped my brother out a few times with flights for Christmas, and seed money when his apmt burned down (without insurance). We did say no to my BIL and his wife when they asked us to co-sign their mortgage this fall. We'd just found out we were expecting, and we didn't feel that they were financially prepared to own a home, especially a major fixer upper. We did help out with their wedding, though, and I imagine we'll help my brother too, when the time comes.

Currently, no. Have we ever? Yes. As a married couple, we have never needed financial aid. However, both our parents have offered to help from time to time for various things. We have paid them back every time.

Oh and my husband's mother has asked for money often and I've always said no. It w oukd be different if she wasn't an alcoholic.

No, but I usually get a monetary birthday and Christmas gift. My dad gives me some $ when I see him, which is rarely since he lives far away. I treated my mom to some big stuff at Disneyland this year but then again, she covered the hotel for a few days.