I am almost 7 weeks pregnant and since this is my second pregnancy, I am showing or bloated already. Several friends and family asked me if I was pregnant over the weekend and I denied everything and blamed it on lack of exercise and too much good eating. I feel horrible about lying but I'm paranoid and just not ready to share the news yet!
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I dont blame you. I didnt get asked with my first, but if I get asked with my next one I will deny until at least 12 weeks. And thats such a rude question to ask!
Ona funnier note, when people used to make comments when I wa slike 25/30 weeks pregnant, Id get a stunned look on my face and go "what do you mean?" I was always small, but it was pretty obvious, but the look on their face was hilarious! Id only give it a few seconds before I laughed and said "im just joking!"
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I don't show early so I haven't had a need to lie but I totally would if I wasn't ready to tell.
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How rude of people to ask you that!
I would lie. Personally, I've had a miscarriage and I know what it's like to go through that and have to tell people. I only had to tell my family and that was hard enough. I wouldn't want to have to tell even more people.
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I think that's pretty freaking rude to ask, which makes it extra ok to lie to them.
(I totally plan to lie when we have our second)
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Yes. I told one of my friends I wasn't pregnant. One because it's really too soon to share the news and two, I didn't like the tone she used when she asked, so I wasn't sure if she would even be happy if I had said yes.
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Yep! I had a coworker looked me up and down the other day and I asked her what that was for. She said that she was seeing if I was glowing yet. I lied and said nope, not glowing. Then she asked if we made a baby on vacation. We were in a room full of people in line for a pot luck. No way I would have told her then even if I was ready to tell her.
Lied to my in-laws neighbors this weekend when he asked if I was pregnant since I wasn't drinking. He is a doctor, he should know better! I hate lying to people, but I will tell when I am ready not when they want me too.
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@artbee: @Lozza: My aunt's sister and husband don't know that I understand Chinese....they were whispering loudly to each other about how fat my stomach looked before they asked me if I was pregnant! Annoying!
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I would have lied had anybody come outright and said anything. Thankfully they didn't, though when we announced it, they said they were wondering because my boobs looked so big lol. A bunch of people, though, were asking if we were going to start trying, so I just lied my way through that one.
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I hold all my weight round my middle (right up front, like a baby bump) and, despite never having been pregnant, ever, I did have someone stand up for me on a train a few months ago! Does saying "Wow, thank you" and sitting down in her seat count as lying about being pregnant? Hahaha!
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@autumnlove: Ouch! At least you ARE otherwise that would have been extra hurtful!
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@autumnlove: Wow. Bet they felt bad when you said no.
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Wow, that is so rude! I would lie too.
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I lied to my FIL when he point blank asked me if I was pregnant the day after I miscarried, it was more than a little awkward and I certainly didn't feel like saying "well I was.."
In the future I know I'm going to be a little more anxious the next time around, but depending on who it was I might tell them even If I wasn't necessarily ready to spill the beans.
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no one asked thankfully, but i totally would do what you did until i was feeling comfortable to tell people~
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@artbee: I don't think she did. She went on and on about how I should be more active and drink less soda. Lol, I don't even like soda!
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With my second, a couple people asked because I started showing right away. I said something along the lines of, "Hopefully soon!" So not entirely a lie, but not really truthful either.
I ended up telling everyone at around 11 weeks because we came back from a three week vacation and I had clearly grown!
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I lied to a bunch of people and it was so hard but like you I wasn't ready to tell. It's all good they got over it.
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No one straight out asked. A few people implied the question but I just avoided it. I will do the same thing in any future pregnancies!
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I've only had one person ask straight out. I was so shocked I gave myself away with the look on my face!
Actually two people asked, my BFF texted me (the same day as this other chick just asked (around 5 weeks)) asking if I was pregnant (out of the BLUE I hadn't talked to her in weeks). I asked her why she would ask that and she said she had a crazy dream that I was.... Needless to say I told her.
So far no others I am not sure if I would lie or not at this point. Maybe bend the truth a bit....
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i lied to a couple people within the first week because they asked (randomly!) but other than that, i didn't have anyone ask me right out.
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I didnt lie but didnt confirm either and would say things like "oh thanks I guess I look fat" or something. I did want to lie but was nervous I would jinx myself by actually saying I wasnt pregnant
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I told everyone as soon as we found out so didn't have to lie
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@autumnlove: I didn't show until after the 14w mark which is when we started telling people so I never had to lie but, I absolutely would have flat-out lied if they'd asked! I was dead set on keeping it a secret.
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I had to lie. Not bc I was showing but because I wasn't drinking. My aunt pestered me so hard but we didn't tell my parents until 12 weeks so I couldn't tell any family until I told them.
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We are not TTC yet but I will have to lie! Everytime we see my parents my step dad asks if I'm pregnant yet. Soooo annoying!
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we told family early but I definitely would have lied if anyone asked!
we were shoe shopping the other day and a man with a visibly pregnant wife said "congratulations!" to me, and I said thank you - but said not a word to his wife. I was NOT risking that! you just never know!
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It takes me forever to show, but if someone asked & I wasn't ready I would absolutely lie! It might sound bad, but if you aren't ready then it is your business to keep!
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I don't think it's a big deal to lie! I made excuses for things before I was ready to tell, but nobody outright asked!
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We've been avoiding family. I've told my friends-it's easier with them
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@blackbird: Glad that I am not the only one! We have told parents and siblings but waiting on the rest of the clan. But I have told all my close friends. My family is going to be mad when they find out how long I waited to tell them.
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I had one person ask me at about 6 weeks, because I had been looking so tired. I was so shocked she asked that I didn't have a good snarky comeback ready, but I mostly denied it or refused to confirm. I think she assumed she was right, but now that everyone knows, I haven't seen her again!
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