I've never gone to the hospital and I usually wait until they are at home!
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Yep, if they are close friends or family. I always run it by them though first, ask their preference.
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Several years ago I broke just about every cardinal sin that I can think of in terms of new mommyhood. I harassed my friend constantly when we got near her due date, showed up at the hospital after she said it wasn't a good time (but it was the only time that worked in my schedule so I went anyway) and then showed up at her house a few days later to visit, empty handed. Ack!
Now, I wait until everyone is home, show up with food when it is a good time for them, and leave quickly.
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If they want visitors, I will come. Once I just assumed a friend wouldn't want visitors but she told my sister she was bored and kind of insulted that nobody had come. As soon as I heard this I rushed right over. Since then I always ask. I understand if people want alone time, but I also love seeing new babies.
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I've only ever visited my sister in the hospital. Otherwise, I wait to visit friends at home after a couple of weeks when they've settled a bit.
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I would only go if it were somebody I were really close with and they had said it was ok.
That being said, I prefer visitors at the hopsital. I don't feel as obligated to entertain and visits are often a lot shorter.
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I went to see my best friend in hospital yesterday - but she's the first person I've ever visited so soon after giving birth and her husband specifically called and asked me to go!
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I would go visit, but very briefly in the hospital.
I also brought a gift but offered to take it home for them instead of leaving it there as one more thing for them to drag home.
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I don't usually visit people in the hospital. They are there to get better or recover. We're requesting no visitors for at least 24 hours when I deliver and I really just hope people wait until we get home.
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Yes, if it's a close friend/family. Buuut then after reading so much HB, that made me think twice! Earlier this year, one of our good couple friends had a baby and I told DH that we shouldn't go to the hospital and that we should wait until after they were more settled to meet the new LO.
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Only family... For friends I wait until they are home. With LO arriving any day now, I was shocked that my boss wanted to come visit in the hospital! I think I'll be turning my phone off
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Yup! Always! We inquire first of course. We bring food and flowers with us when we go.
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i have actually visited friends! it was by their request as they didn't have family in the area and she had a scheduled c-section because baby was breech. i went over to hang for a little, no more than an hour and then went by their house later in the week with dinner. i don't think i would feel comfortable asking anyone else!
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I don't visit in the hospital but I haven't had any really close friends or family (except for cousins, and we have a lot of cousins!) give birth. For good friends I would happily go if they wanted company.
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The only time I've done this is when my brothers girlfriend had my nephew and I was excited to be an auntie! Otherwise no, I always ask and usually wait until they're settled in at home.
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Yes, if we're close and if they feel comfortable with it. I always ask to make sure they want visitors at the hospital.
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Only very close friends and only if they say it's alright and almost never with DH, because I know getting your ladyparts checked every 5 seconds and trying to learn how to breastfeed might be something you would only have close friends present for, if anyone.
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Only once, for a close friend where we had talked about it ahead of time. Neither of us have family super close by, so we had previously talked about who would visit us in the hospital (before either of us were TTC!). So we had made an agreement to visit each other, but when the time came, I still called and asked if she really wanted visitors or if she'd prefer I came later. Her baby is still the youngest baby I've ever seen-- less than 24 hours old at the time.
I haven't even seen my nephews in the hospital-- I live too far away and it was better for me to come visit once they were home. -
@highwire: You are too funny:)
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@PrincessBaby: Ha luckily my friend is a saint and when I brought it up to her recently she wasn't even remotely offended by any of it.
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I have with close friends that make it obvious they want company. People seem very one way or the other.. I think we'll want visitors, but after the first day.. I may be too traumatized and in a baby high
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I have only gone to the hospital when my sister in law delivered and she was fine with having visitors.
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I have one time (I only have one close friend that has a baby!). The hospital was right by my school, so I sent her a text and she was up for a visit. I offered to bring a snack but she didn't feel like eating. I stayed for a while because no one else (siblings/parents/HUSBAND) were there. It was odd!
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I've been at the hospital when my niece and nephew were born, other than that, I wait until everyone is home and settled.
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No, never. Well except for family. I was there for the birth of my littlest sis, and for my older sister's birth.
When my BFF gives birth (awhile off - she isn't even married and has no prospects!!) I will definitely be there too!
My other BFF lives in NY and if we weren't apart I would visit her too.
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We went to the hospital when my nephew was born. Everyone else I would just wait until they were home.
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To be honest, no one in my close family and none of my close friends have had babies, but I would probably wait until they were home and invited us over (unless it was like, my sister or someone super close).
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I have never gone to visit anyone in the hospital after they have had their baby. I am always a bit hands-off when it comes to this, unless someone was to specifically invite me. I knew that when we had a baby we would want to limit who visited the hospital to family.
When we delivered our son last week, a friend of mine asked what time she could come and I had to explain that we had chosen not to have friends come to the hospital. I think she understood, but I know that I was uncomfortable telling her why. At the same time, I was also a bit annoyed that she just assumed she could come.
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@highwire: haha do she forgive you? That made me laugh.
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