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I'll be almost 29 when I give birth, and I'd like to have been a little closer to just turning 28 so there's be a chance I'm be done having kids by 30, but otherwise wouldn't change a thing. I treasure the 5 years dating + 5 years married that it has been just DH and I.

No. When D and I started getting serious I used to think that I wanted a baby by 25, then to be pregnant by 25, but I didn't end up having him until I was 27...not much difference in the grand scheme of things! I think I was a good age when I had him!

Yes, only because it means I would have met DH sooner. I really like that guy!

No, I have no regrets that I had #1 at 30, it worked out better for my career, patience, and sanity that way. Even though we had a year of waiting for #1 and 8 months of waiting for #2, it worked out best that it happened that way.

Just for me personally, I would not be as happy had I had kids earlier in our relationship. We really needed that time to finish school, travel, and get to know each other better.

No. I got married at 23 and had DS1 less than a year later. I'm 27 with two kids. I can't imagine having my kids any sooner or any later.

Nope! I am 33 and had LO this year and would not change a thing. It was definitely the right age for me....I had no desire to have kids younger.

Nope, I think it's worked out perfectly. I was 24 when LO was born and I'm hoping for 2 more before I'm 30. I would have been a little younger, but it took awhile to get pregnant.

I've never been the partying type, either and I tend to do things on the early side. Im kinda an "old soul." I graduated college at 20 and immediatly started my teaching career. I started dating DH when we were in high school, so by the time our son was born, we had been together 7.5 years.

I tried to, but it wasn't in the plans, so I was 27. i'm glad I didn't wait any longer, since it wasn't easy

Huh, wow. I'm positively ancient compared with most of you! I'm 36 and pregnant with #1. However I didn't meet the Mr. until I was 33, so we're not wasting time, because we know we don't have a lot of it to spare!

While I would have loved to have met him earlier and gotten started on this earlier, we've both had so many experiences that have made us who we are, and would never have happened if we had kids- we met because we were both in the Peace Corps (him in West Africa and me in East Africa), and I can't imagine the person either of us would be if we hadn't had those experiences. It's made us both better people, and I hope, will make us better parents!

Yes. It took Hubs forever to propose and I was ready for marriage and kids 4-5 years before that. We've been together for 12 years now and I want a child.

No, I like how we timed everything, but more energy would be nice. But I think a lot of that has to do with how parenting has changed. Our parents didn't put nearly as much of their time/energy into parenting as we do. And yet we came out ok so I wish we knew how to do it their way, i.e. feed the kids junk food and stick them in front of the TV.

I was 31 when I had LO and will hopefully be 33/34 when we have #2. For me it's been a perfect age because I had the whole of my 20's to study, travel, establish a career, enjoy 7yrs with Dh child free etc. I think if I'd have had kids earlier I would have felt like I was missing out on life, especially as my friends didn't start having kids until their late 20's/30's either.

Yes, but not by that much. The age I had in my head was 31 or 32. I had my LO 2 weeks before my 34th birthday.

Sometimes...we got pregnant when I was 24 but that didn't work out and we decided to put off having kids, and now I'll be having LO at 33. We often wish we'd just gone for it back then and avoided our fertility struggles. But we've also had so many great experiences in the years between that I'm not sure I could give up!

Nope. Had R at 22 and will have this LO at 24

nope!! I feel like I was too young the first time! We are much more stable financially, own a house now, and have ourselves more together on so many levels. I wish I could have my same little one, but maybe had her 2 years later?

No way. I think 29 was perfect. I had way too much to do before then! However, I would love to have a younger body just in terms of physical ability.

@Ms.Pumpkin: I am due with my first in 15 days, and I will turn 37 in about 3 months!

My husband and I met when we were almost 34 and 32, respectively. We got married 23 months from the day we met. We took a year to settle into being married, and then we started TTC. 8 months and 1 miscarriage later, here we are. So, I don't think we "wasted" any time; rather we just barely avoided rushing things. So, the only way I could have had kids sooner is if I had (a) settled for marrying someone else, which would have been a terrible idea or (b) met my husband sooner which was obviously out of my control.

I am also in a better place with my career now. I have worked for a small company for the past two years -- previously I worked for very large ones -- and have paid my dues and gotten several promotions and increased responsibility. As a result, I will have a lot of flexibility (extra vacation and the ability to work from home sometimes) which will make it much easier to juggle my job and my family time.

I'm glad we had LO when we did because she is so close in age to her cousins, but I wish all of us had been younger. DH and my sister were in their late 30s and BIL was 40 when all the kids were born last year. Plus my dad has really aged in the last few years and I want my kids to know their grandpa- something I never had. It wasn't from a lack of trying, though, so I'm glad we started TTC when we did.