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Yes. I think all the time about how I can secure a work from home job so I can have the best of both worlds. I don't even care if it's not in my field. As long as it's a paycheck and I can spend more time with my baby.

Pre-baby, I LOVED my career. IT was never a j-o-b. I was blessed to know what I wanted to be when I grow up at a very young age and actually carried through with it and still love it.

I no longer feel that passion. Although to be fair some of it might have to do with being laid off last October which has left me a bit jaded.

Yes and no. I would go crazy as a SAHM. I'm just not cut out for it. I love S to pieces, but I would be incredibly lonely and just need to work for my own sanity.

But...I'm definitely less passionate about my work since I've had him. I miss him constantly and really enjoy the days I work from home.

DS is 20 months and I think about it all the time

I love to work but I wish I had more time with DS, too. Ideally, I'd work part time hours for full time pay - but that exists in the land of unicorns for us.
Sometimes I wish I had more time for work as well. I used to get into the zone and complete all these design jobs way ahead of schedule. I'd play around with new ideas and layouts while I was watching TV at night. I never ever do that now.

Yes and no. I hate hate that I miss so much. I want to be the one to see her get on all 4's first not day care. Even if they don't tell me what she does till I tell them I saw her do it.

But I am not meant to be a SAHM at the same time. Maternity leave proved that to me. I was going crazy. I realize it is a different ball game now, but still, as much as I don't really like my job, I like my job.

I totally lost the love for my job when I became pregnant. I just couldn't concentrate on anything but the baby. I have 7 months off maternity leave then I go back to work full time. I am really, really sad I cant be a SAHM, my priorities are at home now - but the bills have to be paid. I dread to think how distracted Im going to be when I go back!

I was DREADING going back to work after my year of mat. leave. DREADING! Now that I'm back at work I'm so much happier. My life is much more balanced now that I'm working again, and I've stopped focusing on the minute details of our lives that really don't matter that much. I will say that now that I have DD, I don't derive as much happiness from my job, it's a less important part of my life but I think for my family I really need to work.

Sometimes I think this... but my job is more recent. I enjoy my time away and my "break" even though it is "work". But at the same time I miss him and I miss sleeping later lol. But I also know that I am a more productive person when I work. When I was a SAHM I didn't have motivation to do anything other than care for my kid - the house was always a mess.. But that is just me personally - Maybe when my kid is older I would be better at being a SAHM but I know that for now it's not the best fit.

If we were to have another child right now, I would probably need to be a SAHM.

So I guess it goes in waves - sometimes I really want it, and sometimes I don't. I don't miss the constant financial stress (I mean it's still there, but not as bad) that comes with living on just one income.

When I was working it was hard to be at my job, I loved teaching. I loved going to work, grading papers, lesson planning, ALL OF IT! But, after DD was born, there just seemed to be a bigger purpose in my life and it wasn't work.

I became a SAHM because a new teaching job was too far away and didn't offer me FMLA when my son was born, and it is different. I love knowing my kids better than I did when I was working, and I feel like I haven't missed as much with DS as with DD, however sometimes it does feel like a job. I don't get a break. Ever. There are days where I am so jealous of the people who go to an office every day.

As a former WOHM who is now a SAHM, the grass is always greener

I have no desire at all to be a SAHM! Except for days she sleeps like crap, lol. Then I miss being able to take a morning nap!

I would like to have, say, Fridays off, though!

I hedge and haw about considering being a SAHM. I love, love spending time with my son. My maternity leave was tough and lonely at times. I just didn't feel cut out for it. I got promoted when I came back to work to doing something that I enjoy and find interesting. Right now, I'm working on getting a certification to be even more valuable in the workplace. I surprised myself by being more apt as a WOHM than a SAHM.

Nope, definitely not for me. I leave home at 8.30 and get back in from my office at 5.30 so I feel like I see DD a pretty good amount. I am definitely not cut out for SAHM.

No. As much as I'm cherishing my mat leave, I really am excited to get back to work. I want to work hard to provide for her, and I'm proud of what I've accomplished in the few years I've been in the workforce.

That being said, I wish I had had the option. I do love my work, but I wish I could have taken a year off, or even six months...or work part time ya know?

Though I have lost a lot of my motivation at work I still think that being a SAHM is not for me - I feel like I was going a little nuts at home during mat leave. I certainly miss him while I'm at work and would rather spend more time with him so now I am trying to look for a new position closer to home or maybe something with more flexible hours since right now I spend 2 hours a day commuting.

@grizz: I would NOT be able to handle that either.

I want more than anything to be a SAHM. I go back to work tomorrow and am dreading it. My DH is a WAHD and I'm beginning to resent him for it. I'm jealous and sad that he will see all the milestones firsthand, while I will hear about them after the fact. I know that I am not being fair; I can't help help how I feel.

I have no desire to be a SAHM at all-- and I don't "love" my job, either! I came back from maternity leave early (decided not to waste 3 weeks of PTO I had saved up) and was happy to do it. For me, I need a bigger purpose/role within our family than just being Mom.

@rahlyrah: my DH is a SAHD for now (he's been job searching for 6 months!) and I really thought I would resent him for it. Now that i'm actually living it, I am so glad he gets to stay home with her. I don't worry about her being at daycare, because I know she's in the very best hands. I love the bonding that they get to do, and I'll always still be her mom. She still misses me and I miss her terribly, but now i'm to the point where I kind of worry about him finding a job because then i have to worry about her being with someone else.

I'm just not that into all aspects of my job. Plus I can't run around the city like I used to because I'm always stressed about pumping. Ideally I'd like to work from home. I'm not really good at being a SAHM. I'm kinda lazy. My mom watches LO during the day and teaches her all kinds of stuff. I wouldn't be able to do that.

I need to work for the money but I'd prefer something where I can make my own hours and not be away from her so much. I was off today and worked a little from home. My mom still came over to hang with us and that was perfect. Also no feeding/pumping stress.

Or, I would work every day for three hours or something like that. That would be sweet. With 10 weeks paid vacation every year. LOL.
Maybe in Unicorn land...

@Rainbow Sprinkles: I want to live in unicorn land!