-
This unicorn land sounds amazing! I have days where I would like the option of being home with LO, but in all honesty, I am not cut out to be s SAHM. I struggled a bit during my maternity leave and found that there was not enough structure for me. In retrospect, I would have done things differently (I think!) but it was hard for me.
I love the balance that work provides for me. Of course I miss LO so much. I have days where I can't believe how quickly time is going by and I get so sad that I am not with him during the day. With work, time goes by so quickly and I am scared that each time I blink my eyes, LO will be at a completely different stage
Who's to say that I would feel differently as a SAHM, though!
-
I am a SAHM. And I just wanted to chime in, because I am having a hard time with it. I am a SAHM due to circumstances (we moved across the country with a 6 month old and an almost 3 year old last fall). I left my job behind so when my (Canadian) mat leave ended, I had no job to go back to. And now, I am vaguely keeping my eyes open, but haven't found anything.
But anyhow.
I have a great day about 80% of the time. And the other 20%? I feel like the worst human on the planet. I am surrounded my other SAHMs who pinterest the shit out of their lives, and I don't. I am scraping by.
I went back to work after my older daughter was born and while I wished for more time with her, I never felt like I was actually making a mistake by being at work. So anyhow, I guess I am just saying that today...I wish that I weren't a SAHM. -
Oh, I have been thinking about this a lot lately too! DH and I are grad students now, so we have been able to be half WAH/ half WOH parents for the most part since LO was born, trading off baby duty as needed when we had to go in to campus for meetings or teaching. I have been super distracted by baby and house though, to the point where I have thought that being a SAHM would be better. I haven't really decided if I have it in me though. I have a year to go to graduate and would like to actually use this degree (after almost 7 years...!), but SAH with baby sounds pretty good too.
-
@irene: I voted other because Yes I wish I could stay home with my baby but No I do not love my career.
-
@woodentulip: My situation is very, very much like yours. We moved, I didn't find anything right away, and now No. 2 will be here soon and it's definitely not a good time to look. So yeah, circumstantial SAHM.
Most days I'm OK. The days I'm not are really bad, though, and I am trying to brace myself for how much harder it will be with 2. So I feel ya. I am not the Susie homemaker type, and think Pinterest is kind of evil. I freelance in an attempt to stay sharp and am grateful for that, but it's not the same.
-
As much as I love my baby I'm really glad I work full time outside of our home. I love being able to interact with other adults, it's a nice "break"
I love being able to bring home a paycheck and contribute financially to our household. The idea of being away from the workforce and being completely financially dependent on DH is terrifying and makes me feel vulnerable.
-
@woodentulip: @Mrs. Yoyo: I'm also a stay at home mom out of circumstance (cross country move for a year). I was ready for a break from my work so welcomed it. But it's much harder than I ever expected! I have a wonderful but demanding 15 month old who only naps 1.5 hours a day at the moment. And a husband with a brand new and busy job. I don't have time to Pinterest anything and definitely am getting by a lot of days! Who has the energy??!
-
No, I never wish I was a stay a home mom. I strews working fewer hours after LO was born (50+\week to a solid 40/week) and wasn't as personally invested in my job after LO but the answer wasn't to quit working. I think it's normal that the more you add to your life, the less energy you have to focus on work, and plenty of other things
I now work FT from home, and spend 2 days a week with LO at home with me; and while that time is awesome, I need intellectual stimulation every day, which doesn't come from spending time with little kids. Sounds like of harsh, but I need the challenge that comes from my work and I would never feel happy or fulfilled without it.
-
I wish I had more flexibility with my working hours. Mornings stress me out but I like to be in early and leave early!
Who's to say that I would feel differently as a SAHM, though!
I love being able to bring home a paycheck and contribute financially to our household. The idea of being away from the workforce and being completely financially dependent on DH is terrifying and makes me feel vulnerable.
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
48 comments