Mine does... but I am largely immune to it! The irony is that she's a better mom than I am a dad, but she feels more guilt than I do!
Does your SO have daddy guilt (or mommy guilt)?
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Nope!
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Nope. The guilt's all on my end.
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Hubs definitely doesn't seem to experience daddy guilt! I experience it for him!!!! Like all this week, he's been working late and getting home past Xander's bedtime, and I just KNOW that Xander misses him (he'll crawl up to Hubs' desk and look up at his chair for him), but Hubs doesn't seem to feel guilty about it at all!
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I don't know about "guilt" because I think men process the whole parenting experience differently...but I think he sometimes wishes he could see our LO more often and I think he gets genuinely upset that she kind of acts shy around him during the week because she only sees him about 1 hour a night between him getting home from work and her going to sleep.
But he doesn't feel like a bad Dad for the situation--and I totally would if it were me seeing my child for only an hour on weekdays.
Not sure if that makes sense. To sum it up--he wishes he could do some things differently, but doesn't beat himself up that he can't.
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Same here. I feel alllllllllll the guilt. He does not (and more power to him!).
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He has none. I have more than enough for the both of us!
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DH has none!
I do sometimes.
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I don't THINK he does, but we've never talked about it specifically. I certainly do though. It sucks. I hope, for his sake, that he doesn't.
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Yes. My husband has a pretty important job with long hours. He tries to set boundaries and leave at a reasonable time, but it's hard. Especially when something blows up (literally) as he is walking out the door. He is home for bedtime 95% of the time, but some nights he only gets to see DD for 10-15 minutes. I know he feels AWFUL about it, and it's one of the reasons we take a lot of vacation. It's important that we get to spend more time together as a family. I, on the other hand, have really struggled to advance my career and keep my schedule flexible enough that I can be there for DD. It's been really hard, but it helps that I work in a field with a lot of women and especially women who understand how hard it is to balance work and home.
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No, but his LO isn't here, yet. DS is his step son and in school, so he's not missing anything with him.
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Nope not my DH!
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I don't think he does, and honestly, i really don't, either. I just do the best I can do and I've made peace with it
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We both do.
DH hates that he's at work all the time and misses so much, and it breaks his heart when I call him and Vi yells "Papa, come!"I do because of about five million things I could do better.
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I just posted about this in a different thread today, but the mom definitely has a ton of guilt. She previously had to leave the baby for weeks at a time so I totally understand where she is coming from. I'm sure the dad felt guilty at times but he was better at hiding it. I don't think he let the unique situation get to him as much as she did/ does.
The previous dad that I worked for had a lot of guilt though. He felt like he was missing out on his kid's lives but needed to travel for work so that they could have a good childhood. He is such an awesome dad and tries his best to make sure he is home for important events.
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I don't think so? He HATES it when he gets home after her bedtime. But he doesn't feel guilty about it, he knows that his work is important for our family. He just feels bummed
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@Arden, Vi's stringing words together already at 8 months?!?!
Holy moly!
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Yup. About long hours, and about not paying attention to her 100% of the time when he is home.
@blackbird: I know, I can't read about @Arden: s babe's milestones because it freaks me out about my kid. I mean, I know I'm not supposed to compare, but how can I help it when all these HB babies are tiny geniuses!
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He doesn't have any daddy guilt. As we talked about our jobs, etc., he'll stay at his job for the money and ability to flexible with working to be there when LO and I need him. If he took on a new job, he would have crazy hours and wouldn't see us and a future LO.
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No guilt! He does feel bummed when he doesn't get to see his kids during the week, but that doesn't translate into guilt like it probably would for me.
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DH has zero guilt, I have quite a bit! Sigh
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Mine does because he struggles with depression/anxiety and it gets in the way of him being able to be the dad he wants to be and to help with LO as much a he would like to.
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My husband misses her, but he knows he is doing his part by providing while I'm home, this first year. I'm sure his overtime and commute get to him, but we make up for it. He's very attentive in the evenings and weekends, and DD makes sure to showboat for him.
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DH gets so sad if he gets home after bedtime but I don't think it's really guilt.
Holy moly!
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