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Oh yeah, even when I was still pregnant with #1. We got called selfish a lot for even thinking about it.

We're probably a coin flip about #2 right now, but when anyone asks (and we get asked a lot, especially now that he's a year old), we just smile politely and say that we're just enjoying E for now. I'm sure if we decide not to have another the comments will get worse the older he gets, but for now people (especially other mothers) accept that. I'm not sure what we'll say later.

@Mrs. Blue: Haha, my oldest brothers are twin boys, and my mom said after the two of them having two more single newborns (my older brother, then me) was a breeze. And the twins were HUGE trouble-makers, especially as toddlers, so that's saying a lot

I am sooo torn. Being a mom is 10000000x harder than I ever could have imagined - and this coming from someone who was a nanny for a living for several years! Being a nanny was hard but I had no idea. no amount of years spent in childcare would have prepared me for this! It's a beautiful ride, but a challenging one.

Because of that I really started to doubt whether I want another one. On one hand I cannot imagine me son being an only child, but on the other hand I think of how many more opportunities we would have financially with just one - we could afford to travel to visit DH's family each year and that would be amazing.

I also know my hubby really wants a second. third, fourth and fifth... I said our absolute max is 3.

To answer the question - Yes, I get this question alot. Once J turned a year old people started to assume we would be having a second sometime soon.

People always seem to think I'm joking about being one and done. I'm not (for now at least...things could change). So, I just let them think I'm joking and I don't care what they say. It's not their decision, it's mine. Unless they're going to live my life they have no say...so yeah, I ignore them.

@Bookish: you know, i was just thinking about it, I can get pretty gung ho on working and money stuff and a cousin actually told me that it is a bad idea to worry just about money and not have a second child.

I should have asked him if it was financially responsible of him to have any children....although that would have gone over like a lead balloon and I would look like a biatch!