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I SAH and my son (2) isn't fussed when I talk to people during the day - but when his dad gets home in the evening he can get very desperate for attention if DH and I launch into a conversation - doing things similar to what you describe. When possible we try and make sure he gets his daddy time in before we start discussing our days, as I know he misses him a lot during the day and is so excited to see him of an evening. But I definitely know the moments you mean, where you just need to share something or have a conversation for practical reasons! Those times if he starts demanding attention I will just say something like 'I can hear you asking for attention but daddy and I are discussing xxx thing right now. You are welcome to listen, or you can go and play until we are done.' Usually it works but only for a few minutes at a time, toddler persistence! I think you're right that there's a balance between making sure they feel heard and respected and involved in conversations, and encouraging respect for other people's conversations.

Also fwiw I think you should definitely take turns with her to listen to your own music in the car! Wall to wall Peppa pig songs would send me over the edge! It's your journey too

J does this all the time, we're talking and its, "Mum, muuuuuuuummmm, mum I'm trying to talk to youuuuu, muuuuuum!"
I usually try to tell him he needs to wait his turn. Sometimes that makes sense to him, sometimes it doesn't.

Yikes! Id be feeling frustrated too! Do you give timeouts? I'd probably send LO to time out if he didn't accept "wait, mommy and daddy need to talk".

We are going through this too. No solutions, just empathy

Yes, our 2.5 year old just started doing this. We have been telling him that Mama and Daddy need to talk and he needs to wait and be patient. Hopefully he'll learn in the next few months.

A 2.5yo is old enough to understand the concept of taking turns. I think you need to acknowledge her short attention span and give her a milestone. "I'm talking to grandma right now, but I will read a book to you in ten minutes." Or whatever.

You realistically can't expect an hour of interrupted time, but you can train her to understand that she may need to be patient while you finish doing something.

In order for this to work, you need to follow through on whatever you promise to do.

Oh yes, K often tells me to stop talking. Especially when my husband gets home from work and we're catching up, she yells to stop talking. No advice, just empathy.

Same age, same issue, same infatuation with Peppa.

It's very, very common. I usually tell her something like, "Mommy is talking to Daddy/Auntie/Grandma right now. Is there something important you'd like to say?" If she has something pressing, like she has to go potty, sure, I will address her. But mostly, she just stammers around and says she wants to talk the Easter Bunny, or something equally random.

I often have my phone near me, so I set a timer. I tell her she needs to go play like a big girl until the timer goes off and then we can talk, together. This tends to work, as she's very rule oriented. Just chatty as fuq.

@Cherrybee: I didn't read all the other responses, but could you give her a "secret signal" to give you if she needs your attention (touch her nose, tap your arm, etc.) and one that you give back to her to tell her you will get back to her as soon as you can? That might show her that she still has your attention. Right away, you'll need to only make her wait a few seconds, but you should slowly be able to stretch out the time she will be able to wait.

@Cherrybee: mine does this all the time, especially when I am talking with my husband. I say nicely "mommy and daddy are talking right now. If you need some extra love, you can come and cuddle me". Which generally works (one way or another) but sometimes leads to her cuddling me and putting her hands over my mouth and screaming " stop talking!" Lol.

@Cherrybee: honestly, this is one of our biggest behavior/discipline problems, and when I try things like put my hands on his shoulders to signal that I hear him but I need to finish talking to daddy first, that winds him up even more! It's very frustrating. BUT, I think your LO is about 2 months younger than mine, and I have to say every day and week makes a difference. He's a lot mellower and some of our reminders are sinking in more and more, I feel, so he doesn't get as upset when we're talking. So no real advice, just keep reminding her that everyone needs a chance to talk etc. Good luck! Right there with you.