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First off, I wouldn't seriously worry about multiples until you have an ultrasound that shows more than one baby. I'm having twins, and my first tri really was not bad at all...I don't think I showed any earlier and I didn't puke once. There's just as wide a variance in symptoms of multiple gestations and singletons, and there is honestly no way to know until you have an ultrasound. So take a deep breath and don't freak out until you have a reason to

Second, multiples ARE a huge deal and a total game changer in a lot of ways. You have every right to freak out at the thought. That said, if you are having twins, stay positive. Work on getting a support system since your husband will be gone. People know how tough twins are, and are SO willing to help however they can both before and after the babies come. There are moms of multiples groups all over the country that have great resales of multiples gear, and will actually support you with babysitting and food. It's truly not the end of the world, but it definitely means some special preparation.

As far as the medical side, I agree that there aren't many providers that would agree to a homebirth. But it doesn't necessarily mean that you're doomed to a million complications. It definitely can, but I'm also sitting here at 27 weeks with not a single worry, and Tequiero delivered her twins at full term!

Of course not! Taking care of one on your own is tough enough.

I am a twin and I freaked out with both ob my BFP thinking "what if it's twins." Take a deep breath, you are not a horrible person for thinking this as twins bring a lot more responsibility and you are already looking at a lot with your husband's deployment so close to your due date. Like @merryc said, if it is twins there are lots of people/places to get support.

As for your grandmother's family history I have been told by multiple doctors/nurses/technicians/etc that fraternal twins tend to run in families not identical so you might want to find out what kind of twins her siblings all had and know that just because it "runs in the family" doesn't mean it will happen to you.

You totally shouldn't feel bad! My sister is having twins and cried when she found out. She really didn't want twins and was upset and felt guilty about being so upset for a really long time. But now, she's super excited! She wanted two kids and hated being pregnant so she sees it as a blessing in disguise. But her initial feelings of not wanting twins is totally legit because she also wanted a natural birth experience and was also scared of having a complicated labor/delivery. Not to mention, they can't really afford two kids at this time (especially day care costs). But she's making it work and so will you!

I am currently pregnant (22 weeks!) with twin boys. Let me tell you, when I found out at 8.5 weeks I immediately cried! This is our first pregnancy and first round of kids. I was so overwhelmed for quite a while, and now we've just had to adjust our thinking. Family and friends are very eager to help in any way, and I am doing as much as I can to prepare in advance.
My first trimester was the exact opposite of MerryC's - I was so sick that I ended up in the ER and needed IV fluids twice. I was medicated with Zofran until 17 weeks when I was finally able to wean myself off of it!

I guess what I'm saying is take it one step at a time. Find out first if you're having multiples - then you can tackle those feelings when they arise.

DH was thoroughly convinced we were having twins, and i have no idea why. he had me scared and nervous because of how 'sure' he was. we both breathed a sigh of relief at the NT scan when there was only 1....however, i had a dream a couple weeks ago that when i delivered there were 2 in there...one had been 'hiding' lol i know there is only one, but it's still a scary thought and i think it's ok that you feel that way.