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@char54: that is so mean!!!

I gained 40+ lbs in my pregnancy and at one point between checkups I gained 9 lbs (I blame holiday season!). My OBs or nurses never made a peep!

I beat myself up over my weight quite a bit for the first two trimesters, and then when I realized that it didn't matter how much I ate or how physical I was, I decided it wasn't worth the stress. You are doing great, and as long as you are still eating healthy-ish (we all have to have our ice cream now and again) and trying to stay active (note I said trying, you do what you can), then don't worry!

I did end up gaining 50lbs so far at 36w, despite my best efforts, but my doctor has been totally fine with it. I have had a very healthy pregnancy and am measuring right on... my body just wanted to gain tons of weight!

It sucks, but let your body do what it's gotta do.

I would not worry, but I also wouldn't have that bowl of ice cream either. Did you start at a normal weight? I think it's recommended to gain 25-35 lbs during pregnancy for normal weight women, which gives you 14 lbs, which is approximately the number of weeks you have left. Gaining a pound a week in the third tri is normal. So I think your weight gain has been normal...but I'm not a doctor. Just my two cents!

@char54: ill be 8wks tomorrow & have gained 8 pounds...pretty sure most of it is poop though. I've been crazy backed up after my trip this last weekend.

I wouldn't worry about it so much if the Dr. didnt say anything. If your concerned then make sure to load up on fruits, veg & drink lots of water. I use fitness pal to track my food & its insane how much crap you can get in without even thinking twice.

I wouldn't worry about it. If your doctor is concerned, they will be the ones to say something. At my 23 week check-up, I was up 17 pounds, and the midwife/nurse never said anything, other than I was gaining appropriately. The only person to ever say something was a nurse at the MFM office, who asked me if I thought that was a little high.

I wouldn't go for the ice cream, but don't feel bad. Listen to your doctor, not the nurse, make healthy food choices, and don't beat yourself up.

I gained a lot in both pregnancies. My doctor the first time would scold me but the second time I think she just figured I was a hopeless case. For me, this is a case of nod and smile and do what you want.

Ugh, I hate the weight-shaming that happens during pregnancy. You're growing a person and everyone's body is different. The rule of thumb that my midwife went by was 1 lb/week....so you're totally FINE!

I worked out doing crossfit until after my due date and ate well throughout my pregnancy and still gained ~40 lbs. Your body is going to gain what it's going to gain. So long as you aren't eating nothing but cake all day, every day, I wouldn't worry about it.

My midwife always said she was much more concerned with women who didn't gain enough than those who gained a little "too much." You're growing a person in there, don't stress over the weight gain! And tell that nurse to shove it.

@Anagram: That is so awful (and untrue) that your doctor told you that you were going to get GD. GD is caused by the placenta impacting insulin resistance. You can't give it to yourself.

@char54: A lot of people gain inconsistently and their doctors freak out over it for no reason. I think it's important to keep an eye on it, but if you overall make healthy choices, that's all you can do. The more you stress the more you're going to want to eat junk food.

I gained 60 pounds during my last pregnancy and ended up with gestational hypertension and it was horrible. Honestly, if you're eating rather normal and just gaining a lot of weight, that's one thing, but if your diet has drastically changed I recommend trying to figure out how many calories a day you're actually consuming and going from there.

I know no one wants to hear it when your pregnant, but gaining too much weight is dangerous even if you were thin beforehand (I was a size 2 and 5 foot 8 when I got pregnant with my son).

I'm going to try really hard this time around to not gain that much weight.

The question I get the most from people is "How much weight have you gained?" I am always shocked when people ask this, because I consider it a pretty personal question and a little inappropriate. Plus, the majority of the time it's asked by someone who just wants to show off how little they gained during their own pregnancy which I think is rude and a little mean.

But to be honest, I've stopped paying attention to the scale and don't even know what the answer is. People look at me like I have two heads when I tell them this, but they just have to deal with it. The fact is, my doctor is not concerned about my weight gain, so why should I be? And if me and my doctor are both okay with my weight gain then I don't understand why everyone else feels they have to be as well!

At my 25 week appt I was up 18 lbs and my doctor said "Weight gain looks good". I wouldn't worry about it. Your nurse shouldn't have said anything because it isn't really her place. I would ignore her and keep on like you are. You will gain what you gain and then after the baby is here you can work on getting the weight off

@char54: I'm at about the same place as you, and my office hasn't said a peep to me about it. I just keep reminding myself that everyone's body is different and handles pregnancy differently. I think my situation was worse though I gained the most in the 1st tri and early 2nd tri, I haven't gained in a few weeks, but I think that just shows how uniquely each of our bodies deals with pregnancy (although I would by lying if I didn't tell you I hope that I hope that gaining continues to stall for a while). As long as you are eating pretty healthy and staying active, I think you are fine, it sucks to gain weight, but if you are being healthy then I think you should feel secure in knowing that your body knows what it is doing to best handle carrying your baby.

@MrsStormy: Haha, I know! The majority of the time when I'm asked it's by a person who follows with something like "Oh I only gained about 5 lbs total and it came right off!" Um.. good for you? Do you want a gold star or something? lol!

I didn't gain anything until about 25 weeks and then BAM! 25lbs now at 33 weeks... yikes! Don't listen to that mean nurse.

@MrsStormy: @char54: I'm right around that and we have close to the same due dates. My dr hasn't said anything.

I gained the same as you by 27 weeks (I just looked at my charts), and my doctor always told me I'm right on track. I gained the bulk in my second tri too. Nobody has ever said a word to me about needing to slow it down, in fact, they've been telling me I'm doing well! Try not to worry, I think you're doing just fine!

I'm 23 weeks and up 10.2. I kept it about 5lbs through a few weeks ago and then BAM lately. I'm glad to see the above posts about weight gain in the 2nd tri. My goal was 20 or less but my more reasonable goal was 30 or less, so I'm hoping to stay in that range. No advice, just support!!!! Lots of us are there!

Scales can be weird, too -- when I had my NT scan and bloodwork, the lab needed my weight so they had me hop on the scale. I had a regular appointment scheduled right afterward and my midwife weighed me again, somehow within that hour had magically lost 2.5 pounds. I know I'd had a bunch of water prior to the scan, but no way was it THAT much! So keep in mind that there can be some variation for who knows what reasons....maybe the scale doesn't "lie" but it also may not tell the whole story.