I need to get over feeling guilty if I put LO down for a few to get some things done....
Example: Putting her in the swing (happy) to eat or just take a breather......I feel bad.....
I know it is healthy for them to be content for a few on their own, so I am doing her good!
Anyone else feel/felt this way???
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I do and I get nothing done. I will put her down if I'm by myself and NEED to eat, go to bathroom, etc. I don't feel as bad now since she seems pretty entertained on her own. When I can I talk loud to her to let her know I'm still there!
eggplant / 11861 posts
@snowjewelz: Hahaha I do the same... I talk to her, and you are right she is entertained by herself now that she is figuring out her hands....lol
apricot / 448 posts
I remember feeling that way. My son is now nearly 21 months. Honestly, the mommy guilty - over everything - is so hard to let go of!
pomelo / 5469 posts
@FaithFertility: I used to really struggle with this when LO was an infant and I felt like I was being a bad Mum if I did anything other than play with her/comfort her for a long time! It does get much better though, when you know they are able to entertain themselves for some time then you don't feel so bad. My daughter is 17 months old now and I often tell her that Mummy's busy, go play by yourself for ten minutes please and I don't feel bad.
pomelo / 5000 posts
I feel the same way! She's not awake that often, so I feel like I should be interacting with her in some way when she is.
I try to remind myself that she's taking in a lot, so a little time to not be touched and to chill is good for her to help process things. Still working on finding a balance, which I know will change as she changes so much, so fast!
persimmon / 1135 posts
i feel the same way! A has a little cold right now and just wants to be held by me and has no interest in entertaining herself. even if i try to put her in her bouncer she wants me to sit right there with her. needless to say it's been a few days since i've been able to take a decent shower 
blogger / nectarine / 2608 posts
If she's content, don't feel bad! I was up in poor Ellie's face all the time when she was a baby. Lorelei, by necessity, had some times on her own, and I realized that even babies can value and benefit from quiet time to just be. I don't like interacting with other people all day long. I have moments when I just want to sit and watch clouds, or read, or whatever. If you can, try to trust that she will let you know when she's not enjoying having quiet time anymore, and if she's happy, that it's a beneficial rest for everyone. 
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
In the beginning I did, but I came to realize that my child needed her "chill" time, that she enjoyed relaxing without me talking/in her face all the time. She takes after me in needing some alone time to relax (even now at 2 1/2 she will say "I'm going to my room, I need some time." and I'm completely okay with this!)
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
I had the same feelings. DH would put her down somewhere and I would get upset if she couldn't see us or if she didn't have toys in front of her face. At 17 months, she and I are still at least chatting for a good 85% of the day. I just can't help it. We'll see how I do when LO 2 gets here!
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