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@Iced Tea: Oh my goodness, you've just had the most awful year. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your losses. I lost my first pregnancy the day after my dad passed away. It was hard to grieve two things at the same time - if I cried about my baby I felt so guilty for not hurting harder for my dad. Then at my dad's funeral I felt bitter and hurt that my baby didn't get the same recognition. Basically, your feelings are just really messed up. I really hope for some healing for you and I hope that your baby brings some much needed joy into your lives (congratulations by the way!).
@owlteach: It must be so difficult for you to see your mum "moving on". It must feel like that little tiny bit you have left of your dad - the gaping hole he left - is systematically being taken away from you. I'm sorry.
I think it's lovely that your dad will be paying for your IF treatments (if required); I love that he can help you with this even if he can't be there for you in person. @Pepper: Can it really be only a year ago that she was diagnosed? It all just happened so quickly, didn't it? It was about 9 months between my dad finding the lump in his neck and his passing in 2012 - it seemed longer, though, somehow. Sending you lots and lots of love.
I think about my dad often. It will be two years in September . He would have adored E.
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Just checking in here, since today marks a year since my Dad passed. On the agenda is anything that will keep my mom happy/occupied. I put DS in a tie dye shirt that my mom bought him in honor of my dad (who was a hippie in the 60s).
How is everyone else doing? How do you plan on telling your LO about his/her grandparents?
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@Mrs.Someone: I hope your mom (and you, of course) are coping ok. It's still pretty fresh for you.
Last week was 8 years since my mom passed. My DS coincidentally brought up the topic of death the day before the anniversary so I was kind of forced to talk about it. He already knows my mom died, but the concept is still fairly abstract to him (he's 4). The way I told my son was that he brought it up sometime when he was 3 and he asked me where my mom was since he knows he has 3 other grandparents. I had to explain it then, and we revisit the topic from time to time when he asks about it.
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@Mrs.Someone: How are you feeling today? I know you want to keep your mom happy, but I hope you're taking care of yourself too.
I don't know if the pain ever fully goes away, but I've just learned to better cope with it and make it a part of my story. His life, and his death, played a huge role in who I am today.
Its been 14 years since my dad passed. I actually brought him up this past week and cried (I don't like talking about it too much IRL bc it's hard for me to get the words out sometimes - and I don't like getting emotional about it then making ppl feel awkward). I still choke up when I talk and think back on him. My kids are 2 and 4, and I haven't really talked about him to them yet. I think when they are old enough to ask and wonder why they don't have another grandpa, I will have that conversation with them. I will tell them what he was like as my dad, how he influenced me, and how he would've been as a grandpa. He would've been a great grandpa.
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@lamariniere: @Mrs. High Heels: Thanks! I did just fine, but my mom had a tough time at a few points in the day. Cute baby definitely helped though.
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