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@MrsH: It's so hard but it will be okay.

I'm not a big help... I've been back for 6 weeks and I still dread going!

@LMOG47: @MrsH: this could be for another thread, but I would love to hear about your experiences being the sole breadwinners. We've been tossing out possible scenarios for working and life, and that's one that came up!

@MrsH: That sounds very hard, and I hope knowing that others have been there, done that, and survived can make you feel a little better!

Going back is soooooooo hard, especially those first few days/weeks! But it does get easier!!

Honestly, the anticipation was worse for me. Once I went back it was okay. Not that I didn't miss her but it wasn't the panic that I thought I'd have. A colleague mommy told me not to expect to do much the first week other than to just get in a routine and be used to being away from DD. That really helped!

I just finished day 2 of back to work and it went great! The thought of it and anticipation is worse than actually doing it. Good luck! I know it's hard.

The anticipation for going back to work was awful, and I barely slept the night before going back to work. Once I actually went back, I was much happier, and I was able to be really present when I was home with LO. My DH also SAH, and this made a huge difference, both practically, and knowing the LO is with someone who loves him all day. Now, LO is 8 months, and DH does the cooking, cleaning, and most of the errands, so I can concentrate on spending quality time with LO in the evenings and weekends. In the early days, not as much stuff got done.

It gets so much easier, I promise! Have your Dh text you lots of photos. For me, I enjoyed being around E a lot more when it wasn't 24/7/365. There, I said it .

@MrsH: The anticipation was much worse than going back. My DH was home with LO for a month after I went back and I loved getting pics/videos from him. Do you have a Foscam? I loved that I could look in on her while she was napping during the day, too

You'll do great! Just some advice: do not bring the diaper bag!

The anticipation was brutal!!! But actually going back felt good! Using my brain, being me again...it all came back really quickly and I felt great. It's not easy being away from her but I really am happy to be back. And it's fun taking pumping breaks to look at pics and think about her. The day flies by! Good luck!!

@MrsH: it's going to be okay, not easy, but okay and eventually it gets better, Dh watches the baby while I work 30hrs a week at the office. I appreciate every minute with her that much more.

It's really, really hard. I thought I might physically break in half. BUT, it really does get better and it becomes more normal. I still have times I really miss them, but there are really great things about working outside the home, too. I try to focus on that, and the fact that our boys LOVE their daycare teachers. It really will be okay. Just let yourself be sad, but also focus on the good things like enjoying an uninterrupted lunch & a conversation with an adult! Hang in there!