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I can relate. DS has FPIES, so he and I are not eating many foods (I'm eating 6 foods total right now and he is eating 2 of them), including all of the Top 8 allergens + gluten, as well as potatoes, corn, all forms of meat, etc etc etc....

I always eat before going or bring something along that I can have. I always tell people not to worry about eating infront of me and I don't expect them to not eat something just because I can't have it or to make something special for me.

That being said it is hard! Some people are respectful and even with my blessing will not eat infront of us. Others take it as their chance to have all of my favorites and make it obvious. Some people think it's time to make fun of the only foods I can eat stating that they smell so bad and complain the entire time so I wont eat infront of them anymore. And yet some think it is funny to tease me and DS and say how they are dying to give him his trigger foods just to see what will happen...those are the sick people and the ones that aggrivate me to the point you are at. DS has an ER letter for his allergies, it's sad those people want to see me have to use it (and the worst part is they are family).

My point is people are rude and there is nothing you can do about it and no one will understand what you are dealing with unless they are in your shoes. If you feel not going to these meetings is right for you and your sanity then don't go, but maybe eating before hand or bring your own food will be enough to let your still enjoy the time together with your friends?

@brownie: I'm sorry you're having to deal with that with your "friends." I think I might step back from people like that if they can't handle the fact that their friends is a little bit different. There is nothing abnormal about food allergies. When our friends invite us over or out to eat, they always make sure it's at a place where my husband can eat (he can't have nuts, tomatoes or dairy).

I don't understand why people can't be just a little more understanding. Sounds like you do it for them but they're not reciprocating. That's sad!

a) talk to them about it (both what you can eat and that you don't feel included), b) if you don't see that they are accomodating you then perhpas it is best to part ways.

I am GF and have this same problem all the time (even with family). Good luck!

I just always brought my own food to events. With me it was milk, soy, sesame, eggs, and other stuff. No one should have to build a menu around those restrictions! It was really hard for me, let alone people who didn't have intolerance issues.

@brownie: Bummer. I never trusted anything because even Montreal seasoning (for example) has soy in it and would make for miserable nights. Any processed ingredient may have caesin or soy lecithin.

I'm so upset for you. I can't imagine having guests over and knowingly serve them something they can't eat.

I'm on a restricted diet because of LO's allergies as well and my friends always ask what I can and cannot eat or if I can email a recipe that they can prepare when we come visit. Of course, I always tell them not to worry and that I'll bring my own food but it's the thought that counts.

To be honest, your friends don't sound much like friends to me. I'm at the age where quality counts more than quantity so if I were you, I would pointedly ask about the menu for the next event and if there's nothing you can eat, just tell them that you can't make it. If they don't call back with an adjusted menu with at least one thing you can eat, I would write them off. But that's just me.....