C is 16 months old and it seems like every little thing sets her off into what is sometimes a full-blown tantrum and other times just long periods of general loud whining.
It's. driving. me. nuts.
She does it most when she can't figure something out or when she gets herself stuck somewhere or when I wont let her do something. I think it's definitely a frustration thing.
I dont really know what I'm asking for here... advice? Commiseration? lol
pomelo / 5524 posts
No advice, but at 10.5 months, the whining is driving me crazy too...so some commiserating!
watermelon / 14206 posts
I remember those days. They want so much to be able to do everything themselves. They don't even want help!
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
It's a phase? HA! If I heard another person say those words to me I thought I would slap them. That' doesn't help me with the issue at hand, people!
I don't have much advice - I can just commiserate. The best thing that has worked for me (and it takes time), is just to talk everything over. Tell them, "we can't do 'x' right now, but if you wait until we do 'y', then you can do 'x'". That has really helped. Oh, and making sure she knows what's about to happen. If we're going to go somewhere after lunch, then I tell her "ok, after you eat your lunch, we're going to go do (whatever it is you're doing)". Having an idea of what's coming next has been a lifesaver...
Oh, and when she starts talking, that's the other HUGE help.
pomelo / 5524 posts
@BabyBoecksMom: My SIL mentioned talking/warning too! She said that it always helped when she gave a 2-5 minute warning that something was going to happen. Or saying, "this is the last time we're going to take a turn at this, then we have to do this..."
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I would try to talk to him after the fact, that he can ask me for help with the toys or whatever and that I would help him and show him how to do it.
We had some doozies and I did have to remove some toys from his play room, though, because he'd throw them and it would be ugly!
pomegranate / 3383 posts
I'll commiserate!
We also talk through a lot of things with him because he gets frustrated easily and whines for help. My son is a little behind with language which I think plays a big part in the tantrums, so we also encourage him to use his words or signs.
cherry / 157 posts
I will commiserate!!!
S is WAY worse than I ever was (directly from my Dad). I just don't know what the hell to do about it.
She doe it when I tell her NO, her brother looks at her, she is bored, she gets stuck some place.
Ugh, I cannot wait for this to pass!!
pomegranate / 3706 posts
S is 16 months and doing the same. It's frustrating, but I just try to calmly tell her that I'm really sorry she's upset, but sometimes we don't always get what we want. I stay with her, let her cry for a minute, and offer a hug, but don't give in to whatever it was she wanted. It seems to be working ok at this point.
ETA: the more verbal she gets, the easier it is to diffuse these situations. I've been encouraging her to tell me what's wrong with words and signs. When she feels more understood, sometimes it helps. (And sometimes it just makes her more mad I understand and won't give her what she wants!) Giving her options seems to help, too: "would you like to take your bath now, or play for 5 more minutes and then take your bath?" Making her believe she has a little control, when in truth she doesn't really, can help, too.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
For us its usually when we cant understand her. She's a good talker at 2, but still not quite there that we get every word. Once we figure out what she wants life is good. But of course there are those times that she doesn't get what she wants.... She'll usually calm down with a hug. I like her to know that I understand what she wants, I'm here for her and love her, but she can't have it because it's dangerous, etc.
| Today | Monthly Record | |
|---|---|---|
| Topics | 0 | 0 |
| Posts | 1 | 0 |
Ask for Help
Make a Suggestion
Frequently Asked Questions
Bee Levels
Acronyms
Most Viewed Posts
Hellobee Gold
Hellobee Recipes
Hellobee Features
Hellobee Contests
Baby-led Weaning
Bento Boxes
Breastfeeding
Newborn Essentials
Parties
Postpartum Care Essentials
Sensory Play Activities
Sleep Training
Starting Solids Gear
Transitioning to Toddler Bed
All Series
Who We Are
About the Bloggers
About the Hostesses
Contributing Bloggers
Apply to Blog
Apply to Hostess
Submit a Guest Blog
Hellobee Buttons
How We Make Money
Community Policies
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
9 comments