(sorry this is so long!)

I am a part of a group (yes, a group) of people that a close friend has picked to plan her baby shower. The planning process has been really frustrating for me. While I am not a huge fan of baby showers in general (I was essentially forced to have one), I don't like things that are disorganized or not done well. She is one of my closest friends, and I think she deserves a great shower.

While I get why she did it, I don't understand why four people were picked. One of the people does not even live locally. The other three of us are her sister (busy job, single with no kids), another friend of hers (married with a very, very busy job and a toddler), and me (busy job, married with an older infant).

We knew about the planning since the holidays, and I sent everyone an e-mail to try to get the ball rolling. What happens? Dead silence from everyone. I know it was the holidays, and everyone is busy, including me, but it really doesn't take long to reply to an e-mail.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago. I sent out another e-mail. My BFF starts to get worried because we haven't sent out a Save The Date. After some more wrangling, her sister gets one out electronically. We finally start exchanging planning e-mails. After awhile more silence.

I'm frustrated because I've offered to do things, but I can't do this alone. I'm going to up all night each night of this weekend doing work, chores, and other things. The invite has not gone out yet, and this is supposed to be in three weeks. My life cannot handle doing things last minute. My DH works long hours so my weekdays are spent rushing to work and then rushing straight home to tend to LO by myself before her bedtime and usually doing more work at night. I don't have time to do things last minute.

At this point, I just don't know what to do. I don't think I should tell the BFF what's going on. I didn't volunteer to do this. I was asked, and since this is a close friend, I felt like I should accept. Should I bow out now and just say that the next month will be crazy for me?

What would you do in this situation?