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...Seriously though, you're halfway through your third trimester. There's a 5 lb baby in your stomach--that's a whole human being. It is super unrealistic for you to continuing doing things to the degree that you would while not pregnant, and heavy work like shoveling/snowblowing isn't something you should be doing physically! You need more rest than ever before and if you pull something or slip and injure yourself, that's potentially a huge deal.

I'm not one who thinks pregnant women can't do anything, but in this case I think you need to sit your DH down and lay down the law! Get a doctor's note, even. Or call his mom. I don't think anyone would say you're being unreasonable.

@Adira: Can you sit him down and have a serious talk about it? I think that would get his attention more than asking in passing. Does he come to your doctor's appointments? If so, maybe you can ask your doc to talk about what level of physical stuff is okay for you to be doing. Maybe you could print out something online or highlight text in a pregnancy book? Bottom line, he needs to listen to you; I would try to have a heart-to-heart about it and remind him that for the next few months, he'll need to do some things that you have traditionally helped out with and he needs to make time for it--that's life, whether you're tired or busy or what. He's a grownup. At the same time, you're doing a whole lot! (growing a baby, feeding a baby, keeping a baby alive, etc...these things take energy and a whole lot of work and prep)

Crying works like crazy on me! Surprised that he was immune!!

To avoid conflict for now, maybe you could ask a friend to snowblow for you?

Once that's out of the way, I'd sit down with him and let him know that you're going to avoid undue stress over the next few weeks b/c premature labor could threaten the health of the baby. That way, it's not about you and it's more about the baby?

You poor thing! You are a saint not to have given him a piece of your mind right then and there. I would have completely lost it on my DH. How can he expect you to shovel snow while pregnant? That makes no sense, and you will be endangering your health. I agree with sitting him down and talking it out. Also, do you have any couples friends who could kind of chide him, even casually? My DH responds really well to public humiliation (this sounds really bad, but basically he doesn't feel guilty if I say something, but he feels bad if someone else points something out to him). Some guys need to have "appropriate husband behavior" modeled for them, as silly as it sounds. I hope things improve for you!!

Yikes!! Sounds like he needs some explaining!! Given your fear about resentment you could even start by saying "I feel really lucky it's been easy for me this whole time being pregnant and I haven't had to back off the housework much, most people don't have that luxury. But I'm not going to be able to do the physical stuff much more going forward.. maybe we can divide up house duties another way?" Like if you offer to cook dinner or something that isn't already your job and he agrees to take over the snow?

@Adira: You aren't making a big deal out of nothing. You are growing another human inside of you. That is a lot on your body, he just needs to step it up. I like MrBee's idea about bringing up how heavy lifting, doing too much, etc can cause you to go into early labor.

At the doctor yesterday, I told her how we were moving when I am 35 weeks and she told me to just make sure NO heavy lifting, that we don't want her coming before she needs too.

I bet your husband just hasn't thought about it that way. JoJo has another good idea, offer to cook more nights, or something easy that he does, if he picks up the heavy duty items for a while.

Sit him down and explain your limitations, say you are getting bigger, more uncomfortable, and that kind of physical labor is not happening. he needs to pick up the slack and it will help him prepare for when the baby arrives and there is even more work. I had my DH "training" on housework when I was pregnant so that way he knew what needed to be done!

@Adira: I think you have done plenty of *sucking it up* during your pregnancy. If he continues to be stubborn, I would hire someone to do the work. It really is so important that you limit the stress/strain on your body during these last few weeks.

And I totally agree with @Smurfette: you aren't making a big deal out of nothing! I can't imagine any deal being bigger than being pregnant/ having a baby.

@Adira: Maybe you should start waddling more/hobble around like you're crippled and do things slower. Just milk it. Or drop something and try to bend down but make sure it takes 5 mins.

@Adira: Maybe he is in a little bit of denial (for lack of a better word) over how life will change with the baby and having a hard time wrapping his brain around it?

Oh wow, how is he so clueless?! That sucks, I'm sorry. Can you maybe point him towards some literature that backs what you're saying? I'm only a few weeks behind you and when my back hurts, I'm like, "eff it, I'm done" and I sit. I would be just as upset as you if I felt like DH didn't get it. It really does take a toll on your body.

I would totally hire someone and just say, "look, I can't. I'm tired, period, and it's not safe tat this point. If you don't believe me, you need to talk to my doctor"

@Adira: tape a bag of flour and make him carry it around for awhile

@hilsy85: +1!

@Adira: Not only will it be difficult for you to do those things while you recover, but IMO it's also really important to involve your DH in the everyday tasks of parenting, without you having to nudge him along. Anotherwords, having him take the lead on certain things (oh, baby needs to be fed, baby needs a nap) without you needing to tell him. I think a lot of moms (myself included for sure) develop a mommy martyr complex where they do everything themselves and then feel upset or resentful toward their partners because of it. It's something I am really trying to work on, and I think it's really important to make sure that your DH is fully involved in parenting, and it's never too late to start that train moving!

@MsLipGloss: ha mee tooo--I feel like it's very common among type a/perfectionistic people (not sure if that description fits you, but it definitely fits me!)