What are your best tips for creating regular one on one time with your kids? I feel like DD1 gets what she needs because she is older and therefore more verbal and sleeps less but DD2 really could use some more TLC. She's 17 months. I do my best to make nap and bed time routine just us. I try my best to focus on her as much as I can but sometimes I just don't feel like there is time! I'm often feeling sadness and longing when I think of my relationship with her and I'd like to take steps to make us a priority.
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@Mrs. Sunshine: good post. i'll be following the responses as we have recently become parents of 2 and its a challenge balancing the two of them
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@Mrs. Sunshine: I really struggle with this as well. Add to that, my toddler is jealous of affection towards the baby so I end up avoiding paying too much attention or affection when the toddler is around, which is totally unfair to the baby.
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I'm taking a parent/child class with my newborn (I also did it with my daughter). My daughter goes to preschool two days a week, and it happens on one of those days. It can feel like a drag to get myself there sometimes, especially since there are a million things I could do at home. But honestly, sometimes the quiet observation time and singing at this group feel like the only times during the week that I really see him. It's all a little blurry right now in my life but I hope I can continue to prioritize having something scheduled with each kid
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@Silva: I've thought about enrolling my oldest daughter in MOD or preschool a couple days a week. I just don't see how there is time otherwise. And like you, it will sometimes be struggle for me to not want to use that time for something else. I just look at her and realize that I don't even remember breastfeeding her and I did it for over a year!
@Mrsbells: @Foodnerd81: ugh. It's so hard. We had such a sweet time at bedtime tonight and it just really hit home for me. She deserve some much more and already employs attention grabbing tactics. I want to give her more without making any other relationship in my family suffer
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@Mrs. Sunshine: my older one started preschool, two mornings a week, and it's been really really good for all of us. The baby tends to nap for a lot of the time she's in school, which is good- alone time for me!- but bad that I don't get to do much one on one with her. This morning she was so sweet and happy I didn't want to put her down for her nap!
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@Mrs. Sunshine: but I do think having a sibling outweighs the downsides of me splitting attention. So I try to remind myself of that.
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DH and I try to do at least a couple hours of divide and conquer during the weekends. He will take LO1 to the park while I stay home with the baby or I will take LO1 to run errands with me while he takes the baby.
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