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My DH normally has one every few months. If we don't have date nights twice a week, I find it kind of excessive to have man dates that frequently.

I agree that twice a week sounds excessive!! We have gone on two dates since LO was born in July.

there wasn't a single woman involved in that study was there? haha

i guess i agree that boys nights are good for them. but twice a week? holy cow.

My first response to these types of things is there simply is not a one size fits all solution for mental and even to an extent physical health.

My second response is women would also probably feel better if they had a chance to go out with friends twice a week. When is your DH going to let you go out twice a week while he stays home with baby?

My DH could probably swing a night with friends twice a week, but once a week seems adequate for him.

Twice a week??? WE don't get out (even together) twice a MONTH, let alone week.

My parents have been together for 43 years and I don't think my dad has had a "guys night" more than 10 times in that entire time.

I couldn't imagine this kind of schedule would be good for a family & marriage long term (especially since most couples struggle even with regular date nights) & last I remember married men live longer & are overall healthier than single men so this seems like quite the oxymoron. lol

I do agree that male camaraderie is important, but definitely not twice a week. I think the "perfect" outing "schedule" would be date nights twice a month & guys/girl nights once a month, maybe twice if the rest of the months responsibilities allow.

Dh didn't have a "boys night" twice a week even before baby! But, he would often get home later bc of going to the gym or something, which is certainly harder now.

We are working on that balance now. Our biggest issue is golf, which ties into boys night I guess. It's a huge part of his life and he does play with friends, so it's really hard to balance my need for him to be home with us and his desire to play and have a glosses of his prebaby self. Meanwhile I went out for three hours this week and c refused the bottle and had a total meltdown, then calmed down, nursed, and fell straight to sleep when I got home. Grr.

Sounds pretty ridiculous to me. What's more important, that you have quality bonding time with the person you are committed to for life and the children you are raising or the people who may or may not be there in 5 years. And why men and not women? Because women don't have this "need" to get away from their families to spend time with their friends?

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